I sit here again in tears. I sit here confused, lost and disappointed with myself.
How can I not know who I am?? How can I be 34 years old and not even know what interests me?
I don't even know how to find myself :(
I separated from my husband (his choice), 5 months ago. I was with him for 13 years. I guess the time when most people would be discovering themselves I was discovering "us". We got together when I was 21.
And suddenly I have no idea about myself. Sure, I like fitness and watching movies, but that is all I could list in my "interests" section, if ever asked. Yes I am a mummy to two cherubs, but what else?
I even thought about studying, but nope, 5000 options later and I have no idea what I would even like to study!!
If I ever started dating again, I would be the most uninteresting woman out there.
Friends have been saying "you need to keep busy and go and do all the things you never got to do"....ummm.....I don't know what they are.
I am not sure what I am asking. Has anyone ever felt so lost? So unsure of themselves? How did you find yourself? Any tips for this lost soul?
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Yes, and I just started trying random shit until some things clicked! You just have to try something, doesn't matter what it is. Doesn't matter if you do it once and never do it again. Lots of people do it. But eventually you find some things you like. A list of shit to try
Learning a language
Sewing class
Reading
Cooking class
Playing tennis
Learning and instrument
Gardening/growing veggies
Baking
Paper craft
Politics
Volunteering at hospital/RSPCA
Fundraising
Giving blood
But honestly who we are changes over time. Hobbies that I was interested in 5 years ago aren't necessarily on my interest list now.
I am in my late 30s and I still don't know what interests me. I asked my partner to leave tonight for the last time, and I can relate, I am devastated. I love him, but I know we aren't ever going to compromise. I think we spend so much time putting everyone else first , we forget about ourselves. You know if someone asked me what my hobbies were, I wouldn't be able to think of many. In the last year, I have chopped and changed courses that I am studying a few times, and I still cant decide. I know I want to work, and I apply for jobs just to be knocked back.I hope you find you...I am still searching for me.
Hi there, I think many of us have been there.. that feeling of being misplaced. I'm writing because I'd like to try and help because I've been there too. Please go to www.relationshipworkshop.com.au. There's a free Ebook on this very issue at the moment - called "From the Inside Out" which talks about how to get you out of this very place. I hope this helps. Danni