My fiance and I have a 15 month old together and he doesn't help alot around the house or with her.
I work a full time rotating roster and he has only just started working full time hours yet I feel like I'm doing everything.
I look after the housework and cooking and caring for our daughter while he helps out occasionally and mows the lawn at least once a month.
I went out for the first times since being pregnant and got made to feel so guilty for it. Even had to get up to miss at 6am while he slept in. It doesn't really matter what day it is or what he's doing (I could be studying and him watching TV) and I am always the one who ends up having to get up to her for whatever reason
Telling him how I feel things are doesn't really work. Ends up in an argument
argument. We were talking about Ttc but honestly while I'd love another baby I'm not sure I want to with how I'm feeling. Will I be stuck with a toddler and a newborn by myself while he just does whatever.
Nothing negative please just looking for Any advice :(
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I agree with you, it's not time to have another baby. If you both work fulltime you split the housework, childcare, yard work 50/50 as practical. He is acting like a man child who lives with mummy. I would work on this issue and get it fixed before you have anymore kids because you will end up looking after everyone 100% of the time. If he won't lift his game then he has a problem.
Unfortunately some men are just like this and it drives me crazy! Explains why i'm still single!! I would hold off on having kids because you will just resent him. Maybe ask him if he can't help can you hire a cleaner for once a week or a cheap sitter so you can go out...Otherwise id just walk out the door and say cya ill be back in a couple hours and leave him be!
He sounds lazy! I don't know why women put up with this. You bothering work full time, everything in between should be shared. If you do have another baby be prepared to do exactly what you're doing now but with two children. My advise would be stop doing anything for him until he lifts his game or just leave.