How do you deal with the thought that you might only ever have one child if all you've wanted is for your son/daughter to have a sibling? This isn't aimed at parents who are happy with one child.
me and my babies father recently broke up and i don't think i will ever have another child.
I'm still very much in love with the father and only want to have children to one dad.
It sounds silly, but after coming from a horrible family background i wanted my childs life to be perfect!
Only one child..
Only one child..
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I think give it time at the moment. Sometimes After a breakup we have to come to terms with our dreams and ideas for life changing, and that's what you're doing now, but nothing is ever permanent. In time you will move on and it's really likely your ideas will change. Yiu might meet someone and just want a happy big family, regardless of History.
yOu Might not, you might choose to foster or fall pregnant singLe. I'm just saying don't write off your whole future and family and happiness right now while you're in a transition and probably quite emotional.
You never know what will happen and how you'll feel down the track.
There is no such thing as a perfect life. Nobody has a perfect life. Don't give up on a second child just yet. 12 months down the road things can look very different.
I think it's fair to say whether it's one child and wanting a second or having five and wanting six (for example), women feel the same sort of pain about the make-up of their family unit. If you don't feel like your family is complete and what you hoped for in your life, you grieve that. It's one of the areas though that you can have less control over. You'll need to deal with whether the relationship with your baby's father is done for good and if so, whether your desire for your child to have a sibling is greater than the desire for that sibling to have the same father. The fact you want a good life for your child speaks volumes about you as a mum, but it won't be a perfect life no matter what you do and that is ok. If they don't end up with a sibling, then build your relationships with family or close friends. After all, the definition of family is much different to what is was even 20 years ago. Focus your attention on your child now and get some help working through the concerns you have.