So I have a bunch of friends who have just had babies over the past 6 months. I have a 2 year old so I have the oldest in my group. every time we get together the topic of stretchmarks comes up and how happy they are that they never got any. now this wouldnt bother me except that I seem to be the only one out of the 8 of them to have got them, lots of them!
It seems to get me down everytime and the thing is, until recently they never bothered me, I am actually fitter and healthier than before I was pregnant and am at a happy weight, size 10. Everytime they bring it up and say "I'm so lucky not to have gotten them" or "good job for not getting them" or "i'm so glad I dodged that bullet" I bite my tongue and say "oh that's good" but inside all I do is question myself and wonder if actually I am gross/ unlucky/ didn't try hard enough because i have them. Does everyone think they are the worst thing to happen to them as a result of pregnancy? I understand that there are small victories in life. but I guess I just lost that one. My body is awesome, I love it, my husband loves it, I think i look awesome in my clothes. not sure what I'm after really but sortof wanted to know if anyone had some nice tactful words that I could use to tell my friends how it makes me feel. They are awesome mothers and great friends but I wish they would stop going on and on about it to be honest.
stretch mark conversations
stretch mark conversations
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Stretchies are genetic. There is literally nothing you can do to avoid them - if you're going to get them, you'll get them. This bio-oil, vitamin E cream/capsule crap is rubbish. Those who used the magic remedies during pregnancy and didn't get them are nothing but genetically blessed. Those so-called magic remedies *may* help to fade them faster, but time will do it too. I'm 4 years post birth this month and mine are pretty much invisible now, along with my c-sect scar!
Chin up mumma, and don't let it get to you. You're a tiger mumma who earned her stripes.
I don't have any and I suppose I do feel like I dodged a bullet, not because It's the worst thing ever, it's such a small thing, but exactly like you, it's a small victory through. The whole ordeal! Lol to be honest anybody who goes on about anything shits me, tell them to move on. If it makes you feel better second time my boobs and hips have copped it and I still don't car, can't imagine talking about it for too long... What is there to say??!
Here is my response to your friends.
My body is covered in them, get over it. I have my health, I have my babies if that means some stretch marks along the way so be it. If stretch marks are the worst things you could imagine then go volunteer in a hospital burns unit. Now let's talk about something a bit more meaningful!
I had twins (and quite good sizes babies for twins) and I have stretch marks - loads of them. To be honest they don't bother me too much because I never really wore a bikini before I had my boys and I won't be now so no one will see them (except my husband). I try to be positive and think without them I wouldn't have my boys.
Not sure what you could say to them, other than hope they'll get off the topic eventually. Perhaps it's the whole 'tiger who's earned her stripes' thing that keeps circulating round the internet and they're trying to compensate for that?
I've got stretchmarks (both pre and post baby) and it's never worried me (or hubby). Did have one friend in uni days compare them to tree roots but I don't care - they could be considered a decorative area of natural skin.
If you are comfortable with yourself then I wouldn't let anything they say bother you.
I always thought it was rare not to get them after pregnancy. I didnt get any but all of my friends did and they still rock their bikinis and look awesome! I wouldnt let it bother you, youre a size 10 after having a bub thats awesome if you ask me!
Ask them if they can do star jumps without a little pee coming out? Now that is a little victory!!
Your a tiger mumma, you earnt you syriprs
Think of it as a reminder of the best tjing you've ever created your child children