My partner and I both really love this page, but just lately we have started to worry about the kind of world our kids are growing up in.
So many questions and comments on here seems to fall back on stereotypes that we both thought were long gone.
So much "men are like" "women are like" "boys will be boys" "girls are just", I'm sure you get the picture.
It's not like this in our circle, and my question is whether it's just this type of forum, or is this the kind of thing everyone is coming across in their real lives?
On the whole it seems like most people accept every negative stereotype about women even if it is proven to be untrue (look at how often women get accused of making false accusations or being more spiteful), and every excuse for whatever men do, even if science says it's nothing to do with biology.
Nobody we know believes this stuff anymore because the science is all out there, but we all read so much of it online that it's scary.
Are stereotypes just more obvious online, or are most people still stuck on them?
I don't want my boys thinking that their maleness has more control over their actions than their brain because there's not even a shred of truth in that, and I don't want my girls thinking that they can't stand up for themselves without being labeled bitter, vindictive, or a liar.
It's always "most men aren't like that bad one" but "there are still some women doing the right thing", and nobody seems to care about checking the facts.
Men aren't stupid, out-of-control neanderthals who need us all rushing in to make excuses for them, and women aren't nagging, scheming shrews that need a good dressing down.
We expect no less from any of our kids based on anything other than their individual traits, and the same goes for each other. Please tell me we're not alone in this!
Are people the same in real life?
Are people the same in real life?
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You are not alone! I also squirm when I hear girls being described as princesses. Before I answer I try and think about how Id answer if genders are reversed. I also try not to use phrases like 'all men'. I try and answer each question on it's merits. And no, not all men watch porn, and demand sex like spoilt brats!
I think some of the questions kind if play into stereotypes because some of the questions are extreme situations. So people react with extreme reactions.
I agree, it is so annoying that in this day and age, stereotypes and sexism still exists, people don't seem to realise the limitations that it places on both males and females!
It certainly exists I see it in my job in childcare and sometimes its reinforced there:( I also have worked in male dominated industries where I was good eye candy but should be in the office not the shed. Also worked with women who thought men should not be in child care. It is everywhere, just with social media we can re read so many times its in our face.