Hi, so iv seen post on here over the years about stepchildren my rant and view on it my pet hate, if you cant love your stepchild as you would your own you dont deserve to be in their life, i dont care how crazy there mother can be. Love them be there for them treat tgem right, if its too hard to accept another person's child get out and let someone in that will actually love them. Seeing comments like not my child not my problem seriously are you that self centered you cant love a child that's not yours its not that bloody hard ??????
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Totally agree! Although, I think it's so much worse the mum's and dads of such children that let their kids be treated like second.class.citizens by step parents! This was my husband's dad (his mum passed when he was 5) and while I do not like His dad's gf one.ounce because of the way she treats him, I resent his dad just as much for never looking out for his son (even to this day). And the worst part about it is, my husband doesn't see why I have an issue... he has just grown used to it and thinks it's ok!!! He has been affected by it though, it shows in his behaviour.
My step children are my life. They came into our home when my bio child was only 12 and the youngest dear step child only 1yo. I could never before truely comprehend the love of adoptive parents, until I had ones in my heart that I didn't give birth to.
When they hurt, I hurt.
When they cry, I cry.
When they are in pain I just want to wrap them in my arms and make it all better.
The only steps in this house are up to our front door.
They are my children. I would sacrifice myself for their safety.
Yes their bio mum is literally crazy. And their pain over that is the hardest to deal with. I let them rant, to a point. Then remind them if it she only ever did one good thing, it was having them, for without them my heart wouldn't be whole.
I try never EVER to say a bad word about her in their presence. I never want them to think they are half bad because they are half made from her.
I love them, and no matter what happens in the future, in my heart they are now and always will be, my children.
My pet step children hate is when a guy I've not even met yet (met online) is already trying to intro his kids to me. It's just not appropriate. I love kids and will fall in love with someone else's kids (at the appropriate time) but if we haven't even met in person why would you want me to meet your kids? It's dangerous! I will always refuse to meet someone's kids under those circumstances.
I will honestly say I never ever referred to my ex partners kids as my step kids they r his kids. I don't like them and they don't like me. His daughter has been a nasty, spiteful vindictive little cow from the beginning and made my daughters life a living hell. She has also very proudly and smugly bragged about it and manipulated everything to make herself look like a victim. Took a long time for him to see the truth of the matter and stop blaming my daughter who is several hrs younger for all of it. His daughter is lucky I didn't knock her flat on her ass for everything she did to my girl. As for his son there has been a whole other range of issues there involving my son and there is not 1 single ounce of trust or anything there for him. They have lied to my family n stolen from them etc... I despise anytime I have to have contact with them. I'm sure I will probably get attacked for what I've had to say n ppl will throw the they r only kids crap at me but they r not little kids n they know better. They just don't believe respect is anything they need to show anyone.