Hi.
I am in an abusive relationship. Have posted a few times asking for advice. I am concerned and would like to physically be able to defend myself if needed as I have kids. I dont want to fight. Its just if things ever got to the point it would give me abit more time to get my kids and get out and also in preparation to leaving. I am trying to set everything up and then leaving will be alot easier soon. But it takes time. I am getting professional advice but I am not great at defense or very strong. I would just like to know the simple way to get out of a tricky situation! ? And give me time to get to my phone or safety.... dont know what he is capable but would like to stay a few steps ahead of him if I can.
What is the best classes or advice to learning self defense? without giving away my area....
I dont want to seem dramatic but with all these lovely victims of domestic violence. I dont see any other choice. It scares me so much. They deserved so much more than the abuse they got. It does really scare me.
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Maybe the shelter you are communicating with would have some suggestions
Use the palm of your hand as hard as u can and smash into their nose, and a swift kick to the groin area
Or a poke in the eyes!
As suggested above the palm of your hand straight into the nose. If you can look up kick boxing classes around you, I learnt a lot about self defence through that. The strongest point on you is your elbow to, an elbow straight to the side of the head, kick him in the nuts as hard as you can and run for your life with the kids. I'm in qld but places like the pcyc have self defence classes, you can always ask the nearest shelter to you or your local police for suggestions to.
Please look up Senshido. They use something called "the shredder". Basically it's closest weapon, closest target. So if he's right up against your body and has a fistful of your hair, a knee to the groin or a stomp on his foot might be your closest target. Google them, you'll find plenty of online videos and you should be able to find a contact for someone local to you.
Using things like a palm to the nose requires force, thought and to some degree strength. If you're not strong enough it may do nothing to him or it may stun him temporarily, either of which could end badly for you. Please do not go to your local kickboxing or karate class in the hopes they'll teach you moves - in the moment you're likely to forget everything. The shredder works off basic survival instincts that we all have.
Good luck and I hope you can get out soon without having to deal with physical violence.
I was in a similar situation. Find a Wing Chung teacher. If you can, Google One Inch Punch. Wing Chung created it. The martial arts philosophy is to use your opponents strength and force, that he uses against you, to actually use against him. You don't need to be strong. I learnt some really good skills on how to get out of a strong grasp and get away.
The martial arts was started by a woman, who was being forced to marry someone. She offered to fight him in one year to battle, of she won, she didn't have to marry him. She trained everyday for a year and won, thus getting out of the marriage.
Look into it.
In my case the abuse was alcohol fuelled, but he quit drinking and had been sober for years now.
If you fight back he might really REALLY hurt you. Just get out - please.