Hi all,
I'm really stuck and in two minds about another baby! I know it sounds silly, I always thought I would have 3 children, we have 2 at the moment and my partner says no more, but I still find myself wondering if 2 is all I want, don't get me wrong I am thankful that I have 2 healthy children everyday, but I feel like 1 more would complete our family! We have had issues recently and in the past such as financial issues, and our relationship being somewhat rocky, I feel as though we are coming out of that and everything is good.
My question is to those mums who have been in the same position, is, was it harder to go from 1 to 2 children or 2+, also, if he wont come around to a 3rd will this feeling of me wanting/needing another baby ever go away? Would a 3rd child be so much of a change to the 2 we already have. Both of our kids are under 3 and close in age. Please no negative comments
going from 2 children to 3
going from 2 children to 3
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If he isn't on board then don't do it. You will get over having a third if you choose to stop focusing on three children and focus on the family you have now. If I was going to bring another baby in to the family if wait until your rough patch is well behind you.
I had to stop at one for very complex reasons. I got over it because I chose to make other goals and not focus on it. If you have to talk someone into a baby it's usually a pretty bad idea.
I had a really strong urge to have a 3 rd hubby was on the fence about it. He thought about it for a good 4 mths before we decided yes. Going from 2 to 3 isn't that hard as the kids already know how to share your time ect. Also if you have the same sex as your middle one all the clothes get handed down which saves a lot.
This was me about 5 years ago! We made the decision to have a 3rd. When baby number 3 was born (she is 3 now) my son was 7 and my daughter was 5. I found it quite hard going from 2 to 3 and having a big gap. Doing school runs and after school activities such as swimming, dancing, soccer etc was hard. I wish I had done it sooner and not had such a big gap. At times 3 is hard because you're out numbered but I wouldn't have it any other way. Someone once said to me 'you only regret the children you don't have' and that stuck with me. Good luck with your decision.