Have a bit of dilemma. I was dropping my Daughter at day care this morning and she told me that her team leader smacks the naughty children at daycare. She told me the names of the 3 children who have been smacked (on the hands and bottom). My Daughter hasn't been smacked by her BUT I am quite upset for the other children and their unaware parents if this is true. Trouble is, how much should i believe from a 4 year old? She doesn't usually lie and i don't think she is BUT there is always the possibility she could be making it up....do i report it or stay out of it? Thank you in advance for any advice
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Depending on the person, I would confront them or go straight to the director. If they don't do anything then report it. This is considered ABUSE! if anyone smacked my children I would be having them charged for abuse.
Either way, if you think it is true, it should be reported! But give the director the chance to do the right thing too.
I would definitely bring it up with the director, even if your daughter is telling lies it isn't going to do any harm to at least investigate.
Go straight to the director, not the educator, tell the director what your daughter has told you an ask her to just keep an eye on the educator from a distance as you don't want to speculate but you also don't want it to go on if it is happening. A similar thing happened at my daughters old centre, I went straight to the director and the educator was caught red handed. You may also be asked the other children's names, they will most likely question these children also. If this is happening (and children are usually the most honest people) it needs to be addressed, definitely report, but not to the educator, straight t he director!
I'd report it...like you say, she COULD be making it up, but what if she isn't? If it were my child I'd want to know and I'd want something done about it!
I would bring it up with the director and let it go from there. It could be a number of things misinterpreted or something but better to be safe then sorry
As a Director myself I would hope that parents would come to me with that sort of information so it could be investigated. I have had a child say that the teacher hurt their hand, pulled it and scratched it. There were 2 other staff present and this incident did not occur. What actually happened was the teacher asked the child to hold her hand and come help her as she could see this particular child becoming destructive. She knows that the child liked to help. I had conversations with staff, the child's mum. The child then admitted to lying. Your child may have perceived something differently but she could also have seen exactly what she said as children are also unintentionally honest at times and will just say exactly as they see or hear.