PLEASE HELP!!
I got the bar/ implanon put in a week ago. And I have been feeling queezy since and before hand but it's gotten worse since the bar. So to shut my brain up that it could be pregnancy cause it happens every time that I eat ANYTHING (except crackers) I did a pregnancy test.
Now quickly on my relation ship we've been together just over a year live to gether plan on moving down south together have planned out life sort of. Wanna have a baby in roughly 1.5-2yrs. As my partner isn't ready.
So did pregnancy test well wat do u know positive. Go and get a clear blue pregnancy and walla pregnant 3+ weeks. Last period was in April on the 14th so not that far. I have since has a roller coaster night brothers girlfriend helping me out and mums friend to. I have had miscarriages with previous r partners and I am so worried it's going to happen again.
So firstly - I just needed to get it all off my chest and written down
But secondly - how in the world do I tell my partner. I love him with every fibre in my body but I no he's just not ready. Should I wait till I'm past 12 weeks to tell him and know that this baby is staying where it is. Or do I just tell him now. And hope to god everything goes ok.
Also the bar is out and done.
Sorry for long message anything will be helpful as long as it's possible I am slightly pooping myself.
What do I do. Wait or tell him now.
What do I do. Wait or tell him now.
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Ohno you should tell him! He will understand.... you have to be open and discuss this together. He could be very upset if you didn't tell him and I dont think that is a very good open relationship at all. I do understand where you come frm and are in shock. But I wouldnt do it that way. You need to go through this rollercoaster together And not to mention your body will change and you may get tired or morning sickness.
Sometimes these things happen and although not quite ready change your journey abit. Maybe even for the better :)
my advice speak to him. If you do we are here for the support and keep us updated. Xx
Oh I forgot to add to my above comment... Congratulations ☺
Tell him now. Get it over with. Give him space if that's what you think he'll need. know that you make your decision for the long term whether he says he's there or not isn't the point really, it'll be in his actions along the way. you will be fine whatever happens but you better be honest from the start and take it as it comeS.
I would definitely tell him... It needs to be discussed and honestly waiting until 12 weeks is not really fair. No judgement from me on it. That is just my feeling on your situation and I think that he may be really hurt if he knew you kept it from him. You created this life together so I think dealing with it together is the only way. Good luck babe...
Tell him, he needs to go through this with you, that's what a relationship is. If he can't go through this with you and needs to be 'protected' then he isn't going to make much of a partner.
DO NOT do not do not Do Not wait until 12 weeks to tell him. You owe him more respect than that. Good luck to you all and I hope everything works out for you, but do not delay telling him.
You should tell him as otherwise he will feel like you have been deceitful.