hi mums. I'm wondering if there are other mums going thru the same problem as mine. My dd is 32 months old and her hands are surgically attatched on my boobs at all times, which drives me nuts.
i directly breastfed her for 17months because she refused bottles. When i weaned her i let her touch my boobs for a couple of months so she doesnt get to feel not accepted or anything. I've been telling her no more playing or touching mommy's boobies for more than a year but her hands never off from my chest.
My patience hit the limit long time ago and nowdays i imagine slapping or smacking her real hard. When i say no nicely n calmy it just doesnt work. she simply doesnt litsend to me. she stops but then her hands come back in 10 seconds. If i turn back or cover up my chest she cries straight away until she pukes up, if i dont take her back. im a staying home mum n my daughter doesnt even go to daycare so theres no possible reason for her to have seperation anxiety which some ppl might think is the reason.
i'd appreciate any advice before i physically hurt her. thank you
boobie obsessed toddler
boobie obsessed toddler
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I'd try and keep her hands busy with other things. If she is using both hands she can't have her hands on your chest. So when you cuddle her or have her on your lap or are feeding her make sure she is holding something in her hands either a soft toy or toy that she finds fascinating. I'd also wear scarves so that boobs are not as directly there. If you are feeding her a bottle position yourselves so your boobs aren't reachable.
I'd get tough and if she pukes up she pukes up! She will get past it.
At 2.5yrs old she should be able to grasp the idea of "special parts". Teach her your special parts and her special parts, including your boobs. Tell her we don't touch ppl there and we don't get touched there. Because she's done it for so long it will take longer to break. There's no point telling her no then giving her a cuddle and letting her touch them 10sec later, your just confusing her by doing yes. Will it be hard on both of you yes, but it sounds like the puking is an attention thing so she gets what she wants.
Also a little tap on the hands will not hurt her so don't think of it like that.
Good luck. My best piece of parenting advice "say yes as much as you like through the day/night, but when you say no, you mean it, no iif buts or maybes".
Omg my nearly 4 year old has had an obsession with my boobs since he was 18 months old. I stopped breast feeding when he was 12 months so i dont know why it started. I have always pushed his hands away and i tell him that i dont like it. He comes in to bed with us during the night and i sleep with my arms accross my chest. It is habit now! I know that i will laugh about it one day but it drives me crazy and has for years. He trys to put his hand down my shirt in public - anytime he is close enough! It is like finbernails on a blackboard for me. I have told him to touch my ear instead, but he doesnt care what say. He stops if i get mad, but will try it again minutes later. He is a beautiful loving and affectionate little boy and i wouldnt change him for anything - other than his boobie obsession ;-) i think that he just needs to feel close to me. Im not a very affectionate person, so i think that is how he gets my attention and touch. I dont have advice. I can just say that your not alone and im guessing they will grow out of it in their own time. They grow up so quickly, i will just keep telling him no and eventually he will stop.