Hi ladies
As i write this i am in tears. My mother slapped in front of my children yesterday and called me all sorts of names. This all started after i told my daughter off for having a tantrum and she told me i was been stupid basicly and i walked out.... she than followed me to the car.......
I am just over it. No i did tell her to fuck off and leave me alone and told her i was going to the police, ( so i was a bit childish)and now she has informed me she going to the nursing board ( i am nurse) and going to tell them i am on drugs ie my antidepressants.. for pnd... i am so scaried i dont know she will do.... Everyone makes excuses for her like she had a rough time raising my older brother he has austium and my dad was in the army so was away alot....... and my biggest issue is my father cheated on her and according to her it my fault always has been always will be..
My question is how do i move on i want to give up a relationship with her. Am completely over it and her. But i wantto have a relationship with my dad...
Thanks for listening
3 Replies
Just cut contact. Block her on fb so you don't see her pms, don't reply to her messages. Don't even read them you'll just get emotional and upset/ angry etc. It's really that simple. Take some time out, maybeyoull be rmonths eventually you will be in a strong place where you feel like you can start speaking but set and keep your boundaries nice and clearly. If she's like my mother I spent a year not communicating, she still sent msgs telling me I'm awful and if only I could see how awful I'd understand her and we'd get on... (?!) and then this year I opened communication a tiny bit and she walked all over it right away. Sometimes distance is best for you, and it's FINE to do what's best for you!
I think it's highly unlikely it's an offence to take antidepressants as a nurse! In my mind it would be an offence to NOT take the medication you need. Take a deep breath. I think if my mum slapped me I'd consider getting police involved too. It wasn't an over reaction it's a normal reaction.
Your family (including your dad) don't sound very healthy at all. It's time to see a counsellor or similar to specifically work out how you feel and if you want them in your life.
Personally if my Mum and Dad (dad wasn't an innocent party in all this and doesn't stand up for you) were treating me this way I'd tell them to both stick it. I agree with the above advice too.
Block contact. My mother(actually family) were like this. Was happier without the stress and drama with it.