Allright so I'm sitting here balling my eyes out for an entirely superficial reason. Hubby and I are due to leave the house in less then half an hour to attend a friends leaving party and another friends 40th. I've showered and shaved the Forrest that was growing on my short tree stumpy legs. I've squeezed myself into a pair of size 12 jeans (yes I got the zipped up without a hassle....yay I'm winning) sounds pretty good so far right? Well I just looked in the mirror and decided I didn't like what I saw I have skinny legs and all this excess saggy skin belly folds making me look and feel like a mushroom nothing looks right. I can't wear a dress for the same reason the BELLY makes me look fat (I weigh less then 70kg but I'm only 5ft 1) the jeans make me look fat a skirt looks horrible. I've had three c sections so I know that belly isn't going anywhere I'm normally fine with my weight but tonight is a huge thing we NEVER go out and I've been really looking forward to it (ps hubby just came In to the room and asked if I was ready screamed at him that obviously I'm not ready and now I'm not F#*kig going because everything looks like S#*t and my clothes are crap.) with the kids cars and high interest rate mortgage there is no way I can afford a tummy tuck (hey my birthdays next week maybe someone could surprise me if not there's always Christmas Santa has to know how good I've been all year) and we don't have medical insurance to help pay for it. Sorry for the vent not really looking for advice just more of a vent and my own stupidity and shallowness
Omg if I look like this in my clothes I'd hate to see me naked.....
Omg if I look like this in my clothes I'd hate to see me naked.....
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Oh hun! We've all been there. Ive sat on a mountain of clothes crying because all my clothes 'shrunk'!
Wear the jeans, and put a coat or longish type jacket over the top.
And tomorrow go and buy some bootleg jeans or wideleg jeans-they help to balance out the tummy! Its all i wear. Also wideleg jeans usually have a wide double button waistband so extra support there. If u dont have any long or bulky jackets to put on get one of hubbys jumpers as that will help u feel more comfortable. Tell people you're cold and have a few drinks xx
My tummy is exactly the same. And my jeans are the worst I bit the bullet went out and bought a size 14 jeans the tuck my belly fat in and they look reasonably good. Having kids trashes your body terrible. If your bday is coming up ask for gift vouchers take your self out shopping and get some new clothes that make you feel great. Put the jeans on find a baggy top to wear over the top go out enjoy your self.
I'm not a size 12, but I have been in your exact position. On all 3times of the year I have had plans to go out, my entire wardrobe gets a workout, until I loose it and say I'm not going! Lack of confidence is the worst. I hate going anywhere, thinking how bad I look. In theory, I know beauty comes from within, and I never judge anybody other than myself, on appearance. But I feel like everyone who looks at me just thinks how disgusting I am. I have missed out of going to the beach, park, movies, dinner with family because I don't like how i look. And after I feel like crap that I was so vain to not spend the time with the people I love. I know it's hard, but just think of it like this.. Your husband loves you, stands by your side, and wants to have your company tonight. I'm sure you look beautiful no matter what you wear. So wear whatever you feel most comfortable in, have a drink and enjoy your night! Best of luck xxx
You need to go shopping! Get good suck in underwear and change styles to work with your new figure.maybe a dress, not jeans anymore.It's not your body it's your wardrobe ;)
Jee I could have posted this uhhh I hear ya its an aweful feeling ... best thing to do is get a straight vodka down it ..jus pretend your miranda kerr where a pair a jeans top that enhances your boobs pair a heels and a nice jacket... go out ..dance like miranda feel like miranda and dont give a @@##like moranda after a few drinks haha chances are hubby sees you differently and confidence weighs absolutly nothing ??? were all in the same boat and theres always tomorrow to drown your sorrows or go for a walk and start shedding the kilos good luck and have fun tonight
heya sista,
im 5 foot heaviest was 69kgs none of it on my legs.. get some high waisted jeans they are really comfy pulls it in and smoothes out buldges. also get in the bath every couple of nights, and touch your body - not sexually but touch the bumps and curves - the ones that you hate, feel the beauty in it, your beautiful body carried babies, as your life will never be the same neither will your body, we all need to start accepting and admiring how magnificent our bodies are
Hi Mummas,
Just an update from last night I ended up wearing a dress Ive had sitting in my wardrobe for over 12 months. I went out had an amazing night drank lots of Vodka and danced like nobody was watching. I had so many comments on how amazing I looked in my dress that it was exactly the lift I needed (Hell who doesn't love it when friends and strangers tell you that you look great). Hubby and I stumbled in the front door at 230 this morning not drunk but a lot happier then when I left the house :)
Thank you all so much for your beautiful comments and Im glad Im not the only one that feels that way :)
Some surgeons do tummy tucks on woman that have had a c sections for free. I know of one in Victoria. And in future, please don't make your husband feel like sh*t just because you are unhappy with yourself. He does not deserve that. If your mortgage is high (believe me, it's nothing compared to the 90's) go see a broker and get him to get you a better deal.
Everyone has these moments. I find they usually time in with hormones - PMS etc.
I weighed 135kg and started swimming regularly 6months ago. I've dropped some weight and my body is starting to tone a little and change shape.
I'm still a big girl but my body image has completely changed. They say that once you start exercising for life you feel stronger, fitter (obviously), happier, more self assured and much more positive about your body image no matter your size and shape.
I look at my flabby overweight self in the mirror now and appreciate how strong it is. I'm a completely different person inside and have a newfound confidence.
Find a physical activity that you enjoy and try to do it 3-4 times a week. I promise you these moments of self loathing will disappear and you'll rediscover the beautiful person you are inside and out. xx