I'm just not happy with life at the moment! I'm not depressed, I just feel like nothing has turned out the way I hoped it would. I'm 30 now and have been a SAHM for 6 years and now I can't get a job as I'm pregnant again, I don't have any uni degrees or trade or anything like that. I basically don't have any friends, I don't know what friends are anymore as its been that long since I've had one and I can't help but feel like it's all my fault. My kids drive me insane with all their fighting and ignoring me, then I feel like the lowest person in the world for screaming at them. My husband doesn't know what romance is. Never appreciates anything I do at all and only seems to be happy when were doing something that suits him. We never bought a house as we've never been able to afford it. We are always broke! Always! I get so jealous of other people going out to dinner, shopping, getting their hair done, just simple things that I'm never able to do. And I've put on about 15kg in the last 18 months but still all I want to do is eat. This is more of a vent but sometimes I just get stuck in a dark place that takes me a while to get out of! I want to change everything about my life but I don't know how?!
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Write a list about what you want to change and start working one one item at a time. Personally I'd start with child behaviour because if you get that under control the rest of it will be easier, so go do a parenting course like TripleP. Start thinking about what you might like to do as a career. Tell your GP you are emotionally eating. They can refer you for free help!
Get one thing started at a time, once you get one thing under control you'll feel much better about moving into another.
I can relate to this. I am trying to set myself up as a piano teacher but it's just not happening right now. Just know you aren't alone.
Been there and I have two degrees! Sometimes things just get so far out of line with what you wanted. Write a list of how you saw yourself being, your hopes, dreams, interests, goals, and make a scheduled time in your calendar to work on them. For example, weight loss = find a class you enjoy ( don't go out and sign up to a gym, try out belly classes or mums n bubs until you find one you enjoy, then you'll stick with it) that might tick making friends too.
Or a hobby or class. Don't just go out and sign up to things, and don't try to change it all at once, but one thing at a time and keep trying until you find a way to have it in your life.
personally I'd focus on your baby now and maybe after maternity leave you can look at studying or working to sort your money and house, but there's lots of fun personal interest and self care things you can start with for now. Make the effort and you'll see the difference, with every small change you'll like yourself and your life mor, because you'll be living the life that makes you happy. You just have to put effort into making it happen.