I have had a baby that is now almost 6 months old. I have a friend who just had one who is 2 months roughly. She has driven me crazy from the minute she found out she was pregnant (4 weeks, no trying apparently). I honestly think the second her pee hit the stick she rang to tell me, and started asking about what bloody pram to get. And we aren't that close really, I just knew her from high school. Since she had her baby, she will message me daily about what the baby is doing, multiple times. Not just hey blah blah, it will be stuff like " **** just did a poo and it wasnt its normal colour should I be worried? **** smiled at me just then, I'm going to give her a bath. Oh now she's crying, do you think she's teething". These are all in separate messages. I love to talk baby as much as any firs time mum, but my god it was suffocating. When she was 7 months pregnant , we were both at a mutual friends party, she honestly stalked me down the whole night to talk baby. What pram, what cot, what names, what products Etc. And it's not really because she's wondering she asks so she can tell you why not to. Sorry Hun, I have 5 nieces, worked in daycares for 5 years, and I can tell you right now I'm not using Johnson and johnson products lol. Each to their own! Whatever! And talk about competitive. anyone we both know who has had a baby - she loves to trash them and their baby. "It looks like a boy, why would she dress her in green and yellow when everyone already thinks she looks like a boy". It's bloodu horrible. I've straight up said "God youre a bitch", and she thinks it's hilarious. What's worse, if I don't see her/ text her she appears at my house wondering why. Suffocating. I do like the girl and I don't have many mum friends but how do I get her to unbaby a little bit? I can't talk about babies solely for 6 hours.
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You tell her straight out. Say you are bored and over the baby talk. Tell her your concerned as she is so needy. I suspect that won't work though. You definitely need to stop answering her texts and phone calls. Put a sign on your door saying no visitors today thanks (make sure the door is locked) and wait for her to get the hint. Even if she knocks don't answer the door.
My SIL is the same I think I have heard the birth stories of all her children at least 20 times for each birth I can recite each one with detail. It's draining it really is I just stopped visiting and gave distance however she never harrassed me at my house or anything so not sure what you can do about that :( you could gently try saying no more baby talk today next visit and if she won't listen just distance yourself again and don't answer the door lol your not alone though!! I love baby talk too but can't stand it for hours on end
Declare yourself a Baby talk frfree zone and remind her every time it's a taboo subject around you, in order to broaden your life.. Maybe even suggest she could try it too ;)
As I was advised recently, its ok to cut somebody if theyre bringing you down and taking from the relationship than they're bringing and affecting you negatively.
LOL to "when her pee hit the stick" :)
I do feel your pain - some parents I know think you want to hear the same story about their precious over and over again; because obviously you find it as amusing as they do the fiftieth time you have to listen to them crapping on about little Johnny's first dump in the potty.
No advice other than politely insisting you would like to talk about something else, or just change the topic "yes, cots are all the same to me but how about those firemen?!"