Vent/ how would other mums react or feel.
My partner went out last night with mates for a few drinks his 30 been together 7 years 1 son and one one the way. Not the first time and been a tough road at times one I've made myself very clear on. Is not hard to come home after a night out.
However I woke to realise he hasn't come home no call or text phone is off/ flat and his mates well his not there.
He finally rings 12.30 with the story he meet a guy named Ben and went back to his. I don't believe him he refused to let me meet said Ben and the story then elaborate that girls live their two that are very attractive and those type of girls and it'll look bad and he won't take me to meet said Ben is not his place to take people their. Only I'm just his partner. Swears he has nothing to hide though.
His missed. our sons first soccer match this morning and I'm just dragging it out, and am expected to believe this so called truthfully story.
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Turns out his phone hasn't been flat and has charge and he didn't call or text because it was too late and he knew I'd be mad. Some excuse
I'm really sorry how heartbreaking. Do it. Put his stuff out. That's my only advice. Let him come back when he proves he actually wants to be there with you. Youre pregnant, make him go get a test before he comes anywhere near you it takes about a week to get the printed results, I wouldn't have him near me before that ( and it's a bit spitefully good to know he's getting stabbed with a needle). that'll give you some time to really Think it through and decide what you want to do. Good luck.
And if he can find 'friends' to stay overnight with and not feel the need to come home then yes I'd put his stuff out and let him find somewhere to stay without an iota of guilt. It hurts thinking about where he might go, but he's doing it right under your nose anyway, while you wait at home for him, nothing hurts more than that. You deserve so much better.
I'd put his stuff out too!
Sorry he is behaving like a teenager. There was no reason why he couldn't send you a text, catch a cab home or whatever and yeah it sounds like he is hiding something to me.
Put his stuff out let him stew in his juices for awhile then if he wants to work on it and you do too insist on relationship counselling before him moving back in.
I would not be happy.
many reasons at his age. he should be home by a certain time especially as you are expecting and have children. he should be helping you not out getting drunk. And then all you have said I would be losing it too!
Yes you have a reason and I dont blame you For your reaction. X sorry he is being a total jerk. Makes me angry
I'm going to go against the grain and say this is an over reaction based on just this incident ( if there is more sorry but I can only go by this) it could just be super hormonal I had a night like this with hubby when I was pregnant I was mad for a few days but built a bridge and got over it . Talk to him let him know your really pissed why and ask that he be more considerate.
Story might be true but why didnt he use bens or one of the girls phones to ring you? Id be really pissed off
Lived through a marriage full of this. As it turned out he'd been sleeping around with different women whilst also having a long term affair and a child with the woman. He was abusive, violent and controlling.
Listen to your gut, I didn't and put up with it. My kids are ruined emotionally and mentally now. I got out eventually and met a beautiful man a year later. Wasted so many years.