How do you tell the boy next door he's not welcome anymore? He's two years older then my son. I have always got a bad vibe off of him but let my own feelings slide as he is the only other kid near by. But over the years he has lied and manipulated my son into doing things he doesn't want to do. He broke my sons bed when we first moved in and made him lie about it when he was only 6 and was always honest with me. When I'm in the room he refuses to acknowledge me and whispers to my son to make him do what he wants to then when I'm out of the room and he thinks I can't hear him he is very manipulative. He swears when I have told him we don't swear in our house. He blackmails my son and is very hurtful towards him. I've tried to make a relationship with his parents but have been met by brick walls. They just keep to themselves. The boy has been banned many times but we have relented because as I said there was no one else to play with. But we have all had enough now and want it to stop. What does one say to him next time he tries to come over without being a complete bitch?
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You tell him he isn't welcome because he doesn't follow the rules, full stop, end of story.
I just did this with a 5year old coming to play with my 4 year old. She's so small she doesn't understand either and forgets every time this kids mean leaves her in tears, next time she sees her she wants to play again. Same relationship with parents, didn't care where kid was, I was just babysitter and feeding theirs with no break for me or return favour. I eventually cut it. Just busy every time. Tell the child not today, not this week. It Took 2 weeks and now they're both over it, we never see her anymore and my child doesnt ask to play with her anymore and we're much happier.
Don't feel bad about being a complete b!tch. You have a right and a responsibility to protect your family. When this kid next comes knocking, doorstep him and say "No, it's not okay for you to come and play." Stick to your word, and don't let him in. You'll also need to coach your son not to let him in, and to help fill the gap, invite your son's school friends over, or get involved in sport or spend family time at the park or similar. You shouldn't be held to ransom by a feral kid.
sounds like your neighbours child has already got signs of NPD. Google Narcissistic Personality Disorder and KEEP YOUR SON AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS CHILD AS POSSIBLE…..
sounds like your neighbours child has already got signs of NPD. Google Narcissistic Personality Disorder and KEEP YOUR SON AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS CHILD AS POSSIBLE…..
Are you seriously worried being a bitch when your child is being manipulated and not treated good by this kid. Protect your child for god sake. How do you expect your child to stand up to this kid if you can't. Say he can't come to play any more and that is it. Who cares if thats the only child around to play with. Take your child to playgroup around kids his own age.
Op here. Didn't find this productive at all. As I said I wanted to do it. But I thought hearing other people's experiences would help the situation. I managed to do it without my son having to feel guilty that someone else's feelings got hurt as he is a good person and no matter how he is treated he would never hurt another person if there was another way around it.
He knows if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all.