So i have a 3 y/o and for the last year i always thought I'd want another child and (well i always wanted more than 1, didn't want my child to have no siblings) and we've been trying the last 6 months, well not exactly trying but i went off birth control knowing full well i can fall pregnant and i thought this is what i wanted so much. But in the last few days i feel like i really don't feel the need to have another child? He's getting independent, do i really want to go back to the demands of a newborn? Don't get me wrong, i loved being a mum to my baby then and now, but now it's sooo much easier, feeding, bathing, sleeping, playing. Can my anxiety really cope with all that stress a newborn brings? Can my body really cope with a horrendous c-section again?
I suppose i don't so much have a question but looking for others experiences. How you adjusted to another child after your first child was older? Mine will be 4 or older by the time a have a newborn.
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I never regretted having just one :)
Siblings don't necessarily mean a child will have a better life.
Do what will make you happy. If you are happy with one, enjoy your one.
I really enjoyed that time when your baby grows up and gets a but independent, you get your life back and they are a bit easier. Life is good it's not bad to just enjoy that! God knows after having a baby and all that comes in those first years, you deserve it!!
Keep it while you appreciate it, you may well find in a few months youll be full of energy, fully recuperated and really wanting to do it all again with another. I'd do it when I was ready, not when I felt I had to or had planned or expected, etc.
I had my first 4.5 years ago and up until the last 6-12mths point blankly have refused to have another. I suffered depression after my first and hated babies. In the last 6-12 months have been debating all pros and cons for a second (as I did want 2 when we first set out on the kids process) have imagined all sorts of senarios with another child, debated all financial, daycare etc issues. Hubby is fine with my choice and no pressure!
We have recently decided to try for no 2, but it's hard cause master 4.5 is so independant! And it means they would 5yrs apart. But we will c. Good luck with your journey