It was my SILs birthday and we were all having a decent time talking etc. My FIL had my son and went to give him a sip of his drink. I shouted at him and pretty much told the entire party exactly what I thought. I was sooo fricken furious it wasn't funny. My SIL tries telling ME to get over it because they (as in her and my partner) were both drank bear at that age.. now Yesterday she told me the kids are NOT allowed sugar drinks in her house- her house her rules!- WTAF seriously coke is bad but ALCOHOL ISN'T ARE YOU SERIOUS NO NOT OKAY NOT EVER MY SON IS TWO!!!!. My FIL did apologize but there is no arguing reason with this silly woman.. She will get up in your face if you bad mouth her parent style at all BUT WTF No wonder you are getting called a bad parent you ALLOW CHILDREN to drinm ALCOHOL. I prefer coke and soda crap over that sh#t any day. I asked her if kidney disease is in her family. Sue said NO so I told her It Is in mine I am NOT JOKING. My dad was told stop drinking or DIE!! WHEN I WAS A BABY... my partner and I BOTH decided it will NEVER be acceptable that my kids have alcohol before they are LEGALLY old enough and he is furious as well.
FURIOUS ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS
FURIOUS ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS
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Some people do not get it!
A similar thing happened to me with my 4 MONTH old son! We had gone out for dinner to celebrate my mums birthday, and she tried to give him a sip of rum and coke. I told her to stop, multiple times, and she laughed and continued. It still makes me angry and that was 5 months ago
I had the same argument with my mum, it was just soft drink but she has a go at me when I drink it and she tried to give it to miss 6mth...wtf
Actually I understand the having a sip of dad's drink thing. We did it in our family too. It is a tiny sip, not a drink, I also don't allow soft drinks. I'm not saying I'm ok with this, of course it's not a good idea, it's just something my family has done.
However when my little girl reaches for my glass I might be tempted to let it touch her lips ( literally that is all) but my husband hated it and was very serious like, no way don't do that, and I can understand, I wouldn't think it's in any way funny with a cigarette, ( I'd also draw the line at rum and coke) so I respect he doesn't like it & don't do it. I honestly don't see the harm though.
The point is though, even if it's a norm for them, it's not for you and it doesn't take an idiot to be able to understand, and at the end of the day respect that it's not their kid, it's yours so it's up to you, she's just being push, it doesn't affect her in any way if your kid sips beer or not! I wouldn't try to reason with her, just say because I said so and leave it there.
It wasn't dads drink and it was my partbers father he apologized but my SIL went absolutely BONKERS seriously how can she say coke is bad but alcohol is fine?. even my partner says no alcohol under the legal age. He knows my families health history he knows alcoholics are potent in my family and it is never okay.
She sounds bonkers. Just tell her she's got no say, you've said you're piece piece, discussion closed. Glad yoUr husband is on the same page with you, you can ignore everyone else!
I just can't see how people think it's ok to give a baby a sip or otherwise of any alcohol. There is just absolutely no reason why a baby needs to taste alcohol!
I know it can be a generational thing but seriously. They are babies, they don't need it, they don't need to taste it. We would be horrified if we gave it a taste of a marijuana cookie, in fact it would be considered child abuse if we did that.
We'd be equally horrified if someone gave our 13 year olds a drink at a birthday party so why is it ok to let a baby sip booze of any kind out of our glasses?
No there is no reason for it, that's why I'll just as happily not do it. And would never give it to someone else's child. Their lips on the edge once every few years, IF they go for it, won't hurt. This lady is talking completely different scenario anyway.
REPLY- It is never just a sip with this "woman" her 3 yr old has literally sculled 3/4 what would be mouth fulls for an adult. My uncle tried it ONCE with my oldest and I haven't seen him since that was 9 yrs ago.. I tried telling her but she is oblivious to the fact alcohol is BAD. She even pushes her friends to drink while pregnant couldn't understand why I didn't want to. Seriously is it that hard or wasshe given a bit too much booz as a baby.
I can't believe all those people commenting on when they were little they tasted alcohol. well just because their parents made bad choices in giving them alcohol doesn't mean that they should implement their choices on your kids.
Good on you for standing up and saying exactly what you thought. I would have done the exact same thing. You cannot keep your cool in a situation like that. You father in law has apologised, leave it at that. Your sister in law need a bit of her own medicine. She needs to be put in her place and shut up.
I hate hate hate alcohol. N yeah I find it extremely hypocritical she says no coke but shrugs alcohol off.
Reply. I get people think I over did it. But it wasn't the first time.. I said I prefer coke and soda crap and yeah I do, I have two much older children who are allowed it on rare occasions. My 2 yr old LOVES water would drink it until the cows came home he never used to but does now he prefers it. To all the people calling me nuts you don't know me nor will you EVER know me this was posted 3 days ago. My SIL would let her children skull and then laugh at it. It was watching it happen while pregnant my partner and I said we wouldn't allow it for our baby. I told my FIL his apology is accepted and I hold no tiff with him he is a big guy and carries his own shoulders he doesn't need anyone to stand up for him. Not that I need to explain anythung to you lot I was pissed off and rightly so. My sons health is more important to me than family bridges.
I do not think you over reacted, I didn't think it would have been just this once. My partner cannot stand alcohol yet is always egged on to drink. Its almost like alcohol is a must and those who do not drink are abnormal. My partner spent 8years convincing people he didn't drink at all and wasn't whipped by his wife:/ he doesn't even like our children being around drunk people, which my family has a massive drinking culture including allowing us to drink like your sister in law does. Its hard sometimes and if my family did this after I had told them no. I would lose it.
Not game enough to comment on the Facebook page as all the people going "it's only a sip I did it" - I was always allowed "a sip" eventually a sip turned into a mouthful, then into half a bottle and then a couple of bottles (of beer this is). I have problems with alcohol, I have a drink now on the odd occasion but if I am stressed or upset I never drink because that's when a drink turns into a week long bender.
My children have never been allowed alcohol, my 7 year old did one day grab my wine I left on the floor (she was 3 at the time) and managed a little tiny taste (and a hell of a lecture), my kids we joke about on the odd occasion and ask them if they want a beer or wine, none of them want it as I have explained about alcohol but it's just so cute listening to their reasoning behind why they shouldn't have it (it also shows me they know the reasoning).
You didn't over react in my books, sometimes we may just go and yell a tiny but but if your sil is like that I would be going nuts at her to and probably give her kids some lemonade and say "it's ok we were allowed lemonade as a kid just like you were allowed alcohol". I may be a bit of a bitch though when it comes to that sort of thing.
That is exactly it isn't it. If the music wasnt so loud I probably still would have yelled. But you know what it was between my and my FIL and after I got his attention and told him not okay we were talking then she pipes in and tells me to get over it and it is just a sip a RIGHT OF PASSAGE. Unfeckinbelievable!. That is when I lost it. I couldn't care less what she did as a child what her mother allowed her to do whatever that's your issues not mine (I also don't have anything to do with the MIL at all she has said some very unforgivable things). But yeah the argument became between my SIL and myself. I would have left if I could. Then even when the convo changed to getting home and taking him to bed just between my self my partner and another lady my sil Pipes up again telling me to shut up and get over it already.
I think im just not going to reply to that post at all doubt they actually know what its like to be so against something and still have people do it.