I am wanting to organise a romantic getaway for myself and my partner, we don't get much time for each other because his work life is really busy and he has a hard time balancing.
I found the perfect spot and wanted to book it for a month in advance and keep it a surprise and asked him if he could take a certain day off to which his response was "we are so busy at work launching (what ever the heck it is) and don't know if I will be able to or not, its to hard to predict what the future holds"
I understand he is very busy but I feel a little cranky he can't take ONE DAY with a months notice off. its not like he doesn't have the hours worked up, so I told him to let me know a time that is better for him. It was then I realised that no time will be better. If he continues to put his work above all else and can't even manage to negotiate his time a month in advance then I am unsure what to do..
I know its a silly thing to be upset about but I can't help but feel a little rejected and like I am last on the never ending list of things that MUST be done.
I am stuck... Any advice?
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How long have you been together? This is a hard one for me without knowing a timeline.
Firstly tell him what you are planning. I would never just take a day off without knowing there is a specific reason for it. Secondly if his work revolves around projects sometimes you just have to work when the works there because you don't know when things are going to go quiet. In some industries there are dead times of the year so if that's when everyone takes there leave.
Some people are just job orientated. They thrive on it, they feel alive when they are working. It's ok if someone like that is not for you.
Some people can't/won't plan there social lives those sorts of people don't work in my life and it's ok if they don't work in yours too. I won't date anyone who can't plan a first date a week in advance as it's a big clue to wether long term they could fit into my life (where I have to book babysitters a week in advance).