there are any mums out there who have a disability? I'm asking because I have and some times the isolation really gets to me. Most mums appear to have their groups they hang out with, with no room to even say hi to anyone out side that group. Or there's so much dramma out therew I understand that many don't know how to approach some one who has challenges. It doesn't help with my feelings though. I'd lived here 10 years and still only know a few people... all their kids have grown up.
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I am an isolated mum,mainly because I care for a bed ridden child. So not your situation and Im not going to try and compare. What has helped me is being in support groups for my sons illness. It's my go to place when I feel alone. Maybe within those groups there will be other parents and you can create your own community that way. I know it's not the same, but I've found it helped me and we go to the effort of meeting when we can, once I even went on holiday with some other mums even though we lived in separate states.
I do, I am legally blind, but still have good, useable central vision, and therefore don't 'look' or 'act' blind. I am starting to think about using my cane, but not quite there yet. I don't drive, and find that there are places I just can't get to. Timing is also another factor, it can take me over an hour, to 'duck' into the shops for some bread, milk and something for dinner, when it would take no more than 20 minutes in a car. If I miss the bus, it's even longer! I feel awkward at times, in social settings, because I am more likely to miss social cues, eg shaking hands, or the raise of an eyebrow, or wave from across the room, because my vision is limited to 5 degrees. Plus I am an introverted sort of person, and it takes me time to open up and feel comfortable around others.
Hold your head up high mumma, know that you are doing the best you can, in your circumstances, and in all honesty, you are probably doing a better job, than other mums who are 'normal'. Def agree with online support groups