Hi ladies, I'm having a bit of a moral dilemma, hoping someone can help. 3 years ago my ex left me for the woman he now lives and has a baby with. It was very sudden (at least for me it was) and got a little messy. We have a lot of friends, family and places in common so even though we don't usually talk (not even friends on FB) we do occasionally run into each other and at those times we catch up, general chit chat sort of thing. The last time this happened I got a fb message from him the next day, just a link to a story we are both interested in and we sent a couple messages talking about that link when he sent a message asking me to meet up with him and give him head. I was quite shocked and said no. He asked again and started listing things he keeps secret from his partner, one of those being that he keeps drugs in the house and uses while he's home alone with the kids. Istopped contact right there but my question is should I tell his partner? Both about propositioning me and the drug use. I know I'd want to know but she knows who I am and may notwant to hear those things from me. I'm so torn..should I tell her or just forget about it and be glad it's not me that has to live with him anymore?
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If you have the messages, I'd report him. Anything you tell her is likely to be perceived as meddling, and causing trouble. Protect the kids involved. Once that is done it's not your monkeys, not your circus anymore
I love the not my monkeys not my circus saying. Though I'm not sure who I should report it to, police or docs or both? I kept the messages, they even say where the drugs are hidden but I don't know when he'd be doing that, like times or days. Id hate for her to be in trouble or even lose her kids over something she didn't know was happening if that makes sense?
I understand what you mean, I would report to DOCs as it is the kids welfare I'd be worried about. The copies of the messages would be enough in that case. As long as she kicks the arse out docs probably wouldn't take her kids, if they did get taken it would be temporary as long as she got rid of the idiot.
Remember not your circus
oh my god! im shockex at the hide of him saying those things to you! ( and kudos to you for seeing sense)
you say you still have common friends etc? can you confide in one of the friends and get their opinion? they may even decide to tell her and it may have more credit coming from them rather than you. please dont ignore it. if i was the other woman i would DEFINATELY want to know. what a scumbag.