Hi Ladies,
I have never asked a question on here before but given advice a couple of times. Im not too sure what I am after... advice or just a vent in general but here it goes..... Bit of background.. Im a stay at home mum to 2 beautiful children ( 3yrs old and a 6 month old) my partner has always made sure that we are taken care of and is a wonderful dad. But lately I have found myself so frustrated with our money situation! I do understand that many people have it alot worse than we do, but of late it seems like we can never afford to do anything. I would love to find a job to help out a little but childcare is so expensive ( my oldest is in 2 days a week). My partner has recently joined the defense force so we have moved into an area where we have no family or support network and it is literally just us. We were supposed to be getting married ( engaged 5 years now) and because of budgetary restrictions i suggested having a registry wedding, and he tells me today that even that isn't looking like an option. I am so sick of struggling on one wage never getting ahead, and im so frustrated with the whole situatiuon. I feel like I am always cranky and whinging about money and i hate it. I just feel stuck.
Thanks for any advice in advance..
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I know the feeling, I have just recently become a stay at home mum after 15 years of working and I'm struggling with not having he extra money there either. I write out a plan each week of were our money is goig to go and what bills we can pay each week, I do about 6 weeks in advance and update it each week. But each week something else seems to pop up and the budget goes out the window. I am so frustrated in not feeling like we are getting anywhere. I feel like freezing everything for a few weeks except our wage and get everything paid off then start again lol.
I feel your pain
This is the world. I think most of us live paycheck to paycheck (within reason). If we can't change out situation we have to change our mentality to it, otherwise we just get eaten up in side. I know it sounds so simple but taking pleasure of the simple things in life and letting go of any Disney fantasies I had about how life would be made a huge difference in my life. I live on an extremely low income now. It will never go up. I live very simply, but I have food on the table and the happiest I've ever been.
i can understand your frustration, as i have been there (and still am usually) but please keep in mind that your children are still very young and things wont always been like this, as your kids grow and go off to school you will have more freedom to get a job and have some extra income, its just patience.
but if it is getting to you, then perhaps consider doing a 'party plan' or similiar (avon, lorraine lea linen, arbonne, nutrimetics, candles etc) it wont give a huge income but it will give a bit of spending money for you and you can have the chance to meet some new people and make some new friends (as it sounds like you feel a bit isolated too, having no family around)
dont stress about the wedding, it honestly can wait so you can have a lovely wedding and not something you do in a hurry and later regret.
and lastly, you are not alone! but if you have a roof over your head, food on the table and thr bills are getting paid then you are doing great!!
If you aren't happy you need to make a change in your life and like previous poster that may just be in your mind set you need to change. I am debt because I was chasing a life style I thought I wanted and thought would make me happy (including a trip overseas). I have now i literally can't do anything that costs anything because I am repaying these debts but you know what I am truly so much happier now then before in my expensive heels walking in another exotic country. I do indeed find joys in the simple things like going for a walk, going to the beach. Last night I watched a funny movie and couldn't be more content. Otherwise maybe you do need to look at finding some sort of extra income, a night shift? Offering to babysit other kids In your community? There are options outside of daycare hours. Can I also add that your kids are still soooo young, before you know it they will be older and you will have more flexibility. It won't be like this forever. Good luck