Hi Mums,
Yesterday, we took our 18mo daughter to a local daycare centre (one of the only with availability) to 'view' it for potentially 2 days of care per week. We have never been to a daycare before as this is our first child.
We have mild reservations to start with regarding putting her into a daycare centre just because (naturally) we want to make sure everything is fine for her & she is safe & happy.
After being out in the play section for 5 mins a little girl (no more then 20 months old) approached my daughter... My daughter started to cry... (This other little girl did nothing wrong at all). I was already close by & I bent down & I was chatting to her & my daughter about their matching crocs & how pretty her hat was. She was smiling.
Little did I know, another young lady was standing speaking to my husband & she said to him: "ohh that girl (the little girl who went over to our daughter) is a bully... We have to watch her she is our little bully child"...
When my husband told me that in the car I was shocked. Why would a 20mo little girl be labelled as a bully & that passed on to perspective new parents? I'd be gutted if they were speaking of my child like that to someone else...
Am I too 'out of the loop' on how things happen & is this fine? Should I overlook that as 'banter' & give the centre a go?
Thanks for your time & helpful advices.
6 Replies
Nope not too out of the loop and i would report that comment to management VERY unprofessional!
It might just be one carer who talks like that but if it were me it would be enough to put me off to be honest. I go on the vibe I get from the centre and carers and I would not be okay with this.
I personally prefer the home day care to be honest, I feel it has more of a homely caring feel rather than the institutionalised feel of the centres. I feel the carer can keep a closer eye on the kids because there isn't as many in the care. But that's just my choice
That's not ok. My son is in a larger centre, 20 x 4yr olds in his room. They're kids and Occasionally they fight and son may be injured or he may injure someone, I've never been told the name of who hurt him, I'm told how he was hurt and comforted and that the other child has been dealt with. Same as if my so. Hurts someone im told what happened but not who the other child is. I think it's better that way, kids are kids they get rough and you can't label a child a bully that young
I get where you are coming from but I just pictured myself as that lady and can see myself saying something silly like that just making conversation without really thinking about it. I noticed a few mums saying report her, I think that is a bit extreme to be honest.
Some are just horrid people. I work with a woman who should have never worked in child care. Do not let one person put you off. A child should never be spoken about like that and some educators forget to leave their personal views out of the environment.