Hello all. Please post anonymous.
My ex and father of my kids is driving me crazy. We have been apart for 10 years now
There is a long back story DV ect. he still tries to control the situation. It's taken a long time for me to realize things are not my fault.
He has again recently split from yet another partner and is currently on his own. He does not have a contact number for me and this has never been an issue for over 3 years he does have both the kids mobile phone numbers. He recently went into hospital for a couple of hrs and was cranky because he doesn't have my number. Am I being unreasonable telling him I am not his next of kin and it is not my business ( I'm not interested either).
He contacted the kids and he was abusive, because I was uncaring? . Argh. I think I am just looking for clarification more than advice. Please no haters I do plenty of that for myself thanks.
giving ex contact numbers
giving ex contact numbers
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I've been through all of this and trust me there is obviously a reason you do not want him to have your number and you should not feel guilty about not giving it to him. He is trying to control you and using his hospital visit to try and gain access to you directly. Your kids are old enough for mobiles and he has their numbers then that's all he needs! His family should be his next of kin and I'm sure if a serious enough emergency happened your kids would inform you.
You have nothing to feel guilty about. There was no reason for him to contact you. AND he was only in hospital for a few hours hardly a crisis you needed to be aware of!
You are perfectly right that you are not his next of kin and it's not your problem if he didn't have someone else to ring.
Stay strong
Thank you. I just needed to hear someone else to say what I know is right. :)
Wow if that's how he treats the kids I'd have their numbers changed and kept private! If he needs to contact you or them he can email...
Seriously I'm not and haven't been in your situation but I know I'd be protecting my kids from that behaviour!!
Good luck mumma....