Hi mums, this is hard to write. I seem to be really struggling with my pregnancy. We already have 2 gorgeous kids and life seemed to be going along really great. Now pregnant with the third, I can't seem to wrap my head around it. Hubby at first said we can either keep it or not he would support me either way and I decided it would only happen if it was meant to be so go along with it. I just keep thinking negativity about it worrying about money, about stress etc. I'm hoping it will all end once the morning sickness goes but what if it doesn't? I'm scared. Please any advice will be helpful.
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I found myself worrying a lot with my one and only. I found myself pregnant to a guy who was abusive at 20. It was scary and I cried a lot in the first few months. The worry did go after I sat down, did the sums (feeding one extra mouth really doesn't add that much to the bill), realised I actually did have the support of those around me and I did know what I was doing.
A surprise pregnancy can be a lot to get your head around. Don't be afraid to talk to your GP about how you are feeling and don't feel like you have to pretend that this is what you had planned. It is ok to have a cry and stomp your feet and be pissed that you have to wipe more shitty bums in your future.
Write yourself a checklist about what you are worrying about though and look at it rationally. I bet it won't look so scary once you face your fears.
That feeling definitely went away as the pregnancy went along, and I found myself excited and looking forward to my baby arriving.
I also think as you age you are less likely to feel that oblivious happiness that you might feel for the first baby as you actually really understand the reality of a baby :) where as before you only had a concept of a baby :)
i truly believe the only kids you regret are the ones you don't have.
I had 2 children life was cruising along fantastic, found out when I was 14 weeks pregnant with my 3rd SURPRISE I was a mess , wasn't happy through out the pregnancy even up to the day we had no.3 then I seen our little baby one more miracle that we created so beautiful 6 months in and life is great , hectic but great you will be fine , things will work out! Good luck x