I have a 12 y.o son who has just started high school this year. I am at my wits end with him!!!
Me and my sons father split up when he was 18 months old. I have been with my current partner since he was 4. His bio father started seeing him regularly when we split, but over time it has become less and less through his choice. He doesnt call or come visit etc.. my partner has raised him and he calls him dad and has done for a long time now.
When my boy was younger he would lie occasionally. As all kids do, they want to try and get out of trouble by denying or lying. He would always get caught and we have tried and tried and tried to teach him that lying gets you nowhere! and that if you lie you will get caught and then be in more trouble because of a: what you did and b: for lying about it. At 12 he is now pretty much a compulsive liar! It is doing my head in. I just dont know what to do. we have tried talking to him, punishing him, confiscating things, removing privileges all sorts of stuff.
Nothing works!!!!
I love my son to death, but im getting to the stage where i cant stand the sight of him because everytime he opens his mouth and lies i see his father who was a lying cheating scumbag. Ive even told him if he wants to try and lie his way through life he can go live with his father. He swears he doesnt want that but he wont come on board and i have no idea how to deal with this.
Any suggestions or ideas on how to break a child of habitual lying!?!?!?!?!?
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If you've tried all the usual parebting techniques it is time to contact the professionals while he is still young enough. Take him to a child psychologist. They will give you some strategies to help change this.
I'd be doing it sooner rather than later as you can compel him to go now but in a few years time you won't be able to!