Should I be annoyed? Hi IMs, I'm currently pregnant with my second, struggling with fatigue and have a young toddler. On the weekend a new friend brought over her toddler as her husband was doing some work for us which we were paying him for, through a business it was all legit. Her son had been unwell all week but I didn't know this. (Can I just add here, she came in a separate car and didn't need to come over just thought she would for some chit chat.)
Anyway, when she got here she began to tell me how unwell her child has been with tonsillitis, raging temperatures and ear infections, I was a bit taken back she would bring him over to play but trying not to be rude didn't say anything. I got called away for a minute, when I glanced over I saw my son drinking from her son's water bottle (which she puton my sons table!). My heart sank. I knew he was going to get sick.
Sure enough, a little over 24 hrs later my son started to get very lethargic and unwell. It's now turned into temperatures of above 39 degrees, which he's never had before. Needless to say he has medical appointments booked for asap. Now I know kids get sick, but I can't help but feel angry she knowingly bought her unwell son into my home for no real reason other than to socialise. Now on top of battling pregnancy fatigue I've been up at all hours with an unwell child.
How would you feel in this situation?
am I right to feel annoyed?
am I right to feel annoyed?
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I'd feel pissed too. It also annoys me when someone turns up to work obviously sick and spreading there germs around. I also used to get really cranky when a parent sends there kid to school when they are really sick (I used to work in a school). Im not talking a sniffle, I mean really sick.
Id send her a text and just say 'OH NO, x caught your sons bug :(' and leave it at that. Let her learn from her mistake.
If my kid is unwell we stay home, and if someone pops in or wants to catch up I let them know he is sick so it would be at there risk.
Absolutely have the right to be annoyed. I would bluntly let her know your child caught the bug and you aren't impressed and hopefully she gets the message and stays home..
I would be super angry if someone knowingly bought their sick child over. My daughter shared a drink bottle with my niece whilst having a play date and caught Hand Foot and Mouth, however, I wasn't mad with my sister because she didn't know she had HFM, no spots had come up yet and there was no fever. If my sister knew her daughter had HFM and allowed them to play together, I would be very angry with her.
I had a similar situation when my son was 4 months old my son was born 2and a half weeks early and was under weight for a baby born at that gestation and was put in a special care nursery for 48 hours when my son was 4 weeks old he ended up in nicu due to needing a stomach operation and a friend of mine saw this and know all about it when this friend of mine saw my son when he 4 months old she had scabies and told no one she had skin to skin contact with my son touching his face and hands with her own hands and my son had become unwell because of her and he ended up in hospital I was really angry when i found out and I have hardly spoken to her since i hope ur little one feels better soon
Yes I would be annoyed, it's very selfish of her to do that. I get she may have been lonely cooped up inside all week, but there's no reason her partner couldn't take care of the child so she could go out for a bit by herself (I'm talking about at night or something).
Yes I'd be annoyed too. But a warning - this will be the first of many shared illnesses! Sadly, we can't wrap them in cotton wool forever. Just think of all the antibodies your little one's body is developing by fighting this illness. Now it's one of the viral strains he won't get in future! But I totally get it - it was very inconsiderate of your friend. Maybe let her know that your toddler caught the bug - just send her a text and make it lighthearted so it's not awkward next time you see her. It's hard enough being pregnant with a toddler.
If the child had antibiotics then after 24/48 hours they are not contagious. My girl had tonsilitis and was given antibiotics. after 3 days we went to a play group with a friend. The next day this friends child was sick and she lost her shit at me for bringing my sick child to play group. She wanted to pay for her lost earnings for her work because she had to stay home.... she later found out that her sisters kid was sick and probably caught it from him. She apologized but we are no longer friends. Just be careful about how you approach her. X. Ps you are very lucky to have never had a kid with a temperature above 39. By 1 year old mine had been sick about 5 times.
I would be absolutely f**king raging!! How inconsiderate of her!! I'm extremely protective of my girls and cant stand it if someone even coughs and/or sneezes near them. And to top it off your pregnant too...seriously! Has she no common sense at all? Firstly you don't need to look after a sick toddler when you need to be looking after yourself, but secondly I hope you don't end up getting it either! Wow...just wow. I also get that it would have been hard to ask her to leave. I truly hope he is better and that you missed getting sick. You sound like me...we need to find the strength to speak up when we need to and not worry about their thoughts if they feel hurt or whatever. It was your home and you have a right to speak up. And if she got offended by you asking her to leave, then she isn't worth a friendship as a real friend wouldn't have done something like that. Would she like it don't to her and her toddler if she was pregnant too...I think not. Good luck with everything!! xxx