Hey mums I'm pregnant with baby no 4 I am 30 weeks according to scan but 29+4 according to dates this will be my 4th csection and was told at the start im a risk but this pregnancy is do able and I will be fine so I happily went on with the pregnancy well now I am sitting in a hospital bed being told I will be sent to another hospital as the pains across my scar are not going away also my scar is only measuring 1.5cm which is thin I am so scared to have my baby this early and leave my other kids for that long I am normally a strong person but this is breaking me it
Feels like i have no control and that's making it worse.. The other worst part is my inlaws are nasty people who treat my kids and I like crap and caused a huge argument over 2 years ago and have not
Spoken to me since I sent them a letter explaining everything and tried to sort things out all they done was blocked my account and re worded everything I wrote and sent it off to all of their side of the family so they all think I am the biggest bitch in the world anyway that's a long story so I will get to the point my partner sprung on me last night that he will be asking his mother to look after the kids while I'm in hospital now this is a no go zone his mother doesn't know the kids and they don't know her I don't trust them around my kids and I don't want them in my house I don't know how to approach my partner with all of this it's causing a lot of extra stress cause he already knows how I feel about this he always used to say he supports me and will stand up for me with his parents now because they are pretending cause a new baby is coming not that they will know this one either because of the past situations he thinks that I should forgive and forget but I cant any advise???
Help on 2 things early pregnancy and horrible inlaws
Help on 2 things early pregnancy and horrible inlaws
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Come up with an alternative solution is my advice. Can your parents look after the kids? Can friends look after the kids?
It might be that hubby doesn't know of an alternative
He knows the alternatives he just thinks I will give in atm cause I am so worried and stressed about maybe having this baby early he tries to find when I'm at my weak point and see if I will break and give in I have everything sorted now but it still upsets me that he keeps doing this they are nasty people he even has a memory of his step father doing yucky things to him when he was younger but because they yelled abuse at him when he confronted it he believed they done nothing wrong I don't want to risk that
I would flat out refuse, they are your kids too. Hope all goes well xx
I've been in a very similar position for 10wks! I personally had to swallow it as the more I voiced my opinion the more harder it was between everyone at the end of the day you need to put yourself and bub on priorty as long as your kids are bathed and fed you will be home eventually and life will be back to normal try and look after yourself stress isn't good
I can't just swallow it they are horrible people and now that they know I won't be there they start sucking up so my partner thinks they are trying to help my partner wants to leave 3 kids that have no idea who they are with them I hope he listened to me today and doesn't do it cause it won't end well
Why cant he have the kids.. i dont see why he cant.
Might mean you have to go through large chunks yourself but look at the alternative.
I know family day care is a cheap option if you know of one in your area to give him a break while your in hospital or to spend time with you.
Family friend might be able to help out.
Hell would freeze before my mil had my children.
Good luck
He does have the kids he was just trying to get me to allow his mother back in the piture I worked out all care for the kids so he has no reason to ever ask again about his mother I have been sent to a hospital 5 hours away from my family and my god it's hard I just hope he doesn't think I'm stupid and won't find out if he does send them to her behind my back