Hi all. Im after peoples experiences with teenagers and social media. My son has started high school this year and so social media has no decided to rear its ugly head. Im a little worried as my son has never been a talker and is quite reserved. Usually has lot of friends but can be a little awkward to. He is also little immature for his age.I worry about bullying and him getting caught up in the wrong things, specially when he doesnt realise they are not the right way to go about it. This high school experience is new to both of us and we arent ready lol....ive spoken to him about how to use it properly and what to look for and what to avoid and the consequences but i worry its not sinking in or he doesnt see it being a big issue as most kids would. Any helpful advice and experiences would be gratefully appreciated.
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Most kids his age don't get it at all. So you are not alone. We had a rule of spot checks on social media, you should know all passwords and be able to access his accounts and phone, computer, ipad, ipod whatever. Also a bedtime device curfew is important so all devices are on charge in the loungeroom when he goes to bed at night, thats a great opportunity to check them too. I know that sounds quite strict but I did a lot of research into safety.
Trust your son and believe he will do the right thing by you. Maybe ask for his passwords to begin with, once he has earned your trust show him this by ripping up his passwords. Explain to him you need to have a trusting open relationship about it, and of he breaks your trust he will loose the privilege of the password.
I highly recommend the book 'he'll be ok' by celia lashlie
Its all about dealing with teen boys.