Hi sisterhood. I am currently stuck in the court system as after more than a year, my child's father decided that he'd like to absolutely denigrate me to gain time with his child, that I must say was never ever denied. Now we are coming up to having a court ordered family report done.
Has anyone been through this who can let me know what exactly occurs during this appointment? ?
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My hubby n I had to have this done they will ask you questions about kids n things to do with why you think there best with you. They ask him the same question they will see how you get along with kids n him n if kids are over 5 they will talk to kids one on one n pretty much what comes out of that report is what they go with most of the time..
Hi,
I have been in the court system for about a year too. We had a family report done last year which consisted of both me and my ex being interviewed separately by the lady who if I remember rightly is a councilor/mediator/psychologist. She then observed each of us interacting with the children for a short time. It may sound daunting but I found it to be not as bad once I got there. The people who conduct these reports are trained to put you at ease, and just to get a real idea of whats going on in your family dynamics.
I imagine they will have seen plenty of people like your ex and will be able to see through any dirty tactics a mile off! I know the lady who did mine was, and it was her testimony which meant my ex had his time with our children reduced. Although he was claiming I wasn't the best mother in the world, she could see that he was emotionally harming the children by denigrating me.
All the best!
Yep, as the others said.
Simple process. Had family report last year (toddler and baby), not much happened.
Set for trial in oct this year - judge has already stated he will issue family report - father is disputing it. Judge has stated he must have some damning evidence to overturn family report.
Ex has played dirty.
Just hold you head high and act honestly and you will be fine.
Nothing to worry about at all... They will see straight through his rubbish. They ask about your childhood, history, what you want for your kids, care arrangements etc. I was honest about trying pot twice 12 years ago (they will ask about drugs) and that I was sexually abused in one occasions as a child. Just be up front and honest about everything and if you have to say anything negative about your ex do so politely and respectfully. Just go in with the mindset that you just want what's best for your child (seriously easy stuff - us mumma's are good at that :-). My daughter is in daycare so they ask how you feel about the centre and they generally observe the kids to see where they are developement wise. Of course observe both parents interaction (don't let this bother you - just do your thing).
They'll ask about the past and present relationship between you and your ex.
They'll ask why your seeking the orders you are.
You'll be asked about everything. Tell the truth without (sorry for being blunt) being a bi+@h about it.
I was told that the 'high up justice' for the family court across Australia wants more weight to be given to dads. So, in A LOT of cases they are opting for equal time and shared parental responsibility. If you have reason to believe and evidence to back you up, that your ex can't make decisions and can't care for the kids then let this be know!! They will also do an observation, to see how you interact and play with the children. Good luck. I hope you get your desired outcome.