I had a falling out with my MIL years ago due to her making up lies about me causing a rift in the family. Recently I contacted her because I wanted her in our lives especially for the kids sake. Everything was going fine until recently it seems like she's starting to play mind games. If I text her she doesn't reply for hours or even days & then apologises with some lame excuse like she's been sleeping a lot. If my partner texts her she replies straight away. Also my partner rang her & as soon as she answered the phone she apologised for not coming around to visit the kids cause she's been sick in bed all week. But a photo was uploaded to fb of her at the beach that week. The only problem I have with that is she felt like she had to lie about being sick cause she never came around. I told her she is welcome to come around whenever she likes but she doesn't need to feel bad if she doesn't come every week (she usually visits once a week.)
I also feel like it's a one way relationship. I'm inviting her to do all these things with us but not getting much in return. Sometimes I feel like I'm forcing her to be in our lives & that she does it to not upset her son.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What shall I do?
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Ignore the mind games, you don't have to be close or best buddies with your MIL as long as at family functions you can both attend, be pleasant, civil etc.
Leave all organising of get togethers or visits to hubby. Take a step back and enjoy your life.
Ditto to the first comment.
Dont play into her games. Let your hubby/partner contact her and be civil and polite to her when you see her.
My mil drives me nuts too, always saying she has no time to visit our kids yet puts up fb photos of her with the other grandchildren.