Here we go, I'll start at the start- my husband and I have been together for 15+yrs, most of those years he was a drug addict, we have 3 perfect kids, after a while the drugs got worse and the kids and I left, after 12 months he took himself to rehab and has been clean almost 12months now.
He has a pre existing injury which is preventing him from getting employment in the industry that he was employed. I have been offered a job and its great money BUT its working away from home for a week at a time..
I only got offered this job 2 days ago and I am excited, nervous, stressed, and so much more - should I take it? I really LOVE being a stay at home mum and I love my kids and my man, I just don't want this to go pear shaped!!
He was really supportive the fist day but today not so much, he is also on anti depressants, he's a great dad but not very hands on, I have suggested getting an au pair, maybe to help him with the kids while I'm working. This opportunity would also get us off government funding, and government housing..
Should I take the job?? Will my life turn to poo if I do??
Working away, Being a mum, relationship!
Working away, Being a mum, relationship!
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I think you'll find you love it! The time away from home stress and the independance and amazing feeling of not stressing about the bank account every single day. You'll find confidence and self esteem you never thought you had. Take the job. It's in YOUR and your kids best interest.
No, it is not a good idea to leave him with the kids. It is way to soon. If you could take the kids with you then that would be what I would do. 12 months is not nearly long enough, especially since he is on antidepressants. This would be a disaster waiting to happen. Im sorry, I know you must be so excited :(
even if you had an au pair it would be up to him to supervise the au pair, he is just not ready for that responsibility yet
This is duper tough. My husband was offerer a very well paying job (3x the amount he gets now) to work away. But I suffer pnd and I know it would have made thongs so much more worse for me not having that support. My health is much more important then the money. Just some food for thought. GL
I think you should take it but do understand what the others have posted. So so you have any family close by who could help?
I think you need to have a heart to heart with hubby and see what he really wants and whether he thinks he could cope.
Independence is great, and this job offer is great but given your situation you show not leave your kids for this job, your husband is unreliable and and au pair will not do the job you do. I think it will just create problems. Look for work close to home.
In your family's current circumstances, I think it would be unwise to take the job. Money is nice but it isn't everything - I think being close to your family is more important for now. I think your life could indeed turn to poo if you take it! Sounds like you guys are doing really well, considering your husband's past. Good luck xo