Hi Girls,
I need to know if I'm being pissy or whether I have a right to be upset. So yesterday was Christmas. My Father bought me a cheese board (I'm lactose intolerant), my brother bought me a top which I would never wear and my MIL bought me snack foods which I also can't eat because of food intolerances. I put a lot of thoughts into my gifts and I feel like my family are not really thinking about me. I also spent the day feeling like I was on the outer, I'd start a conversation with someone and they'd either start talking to someone else or walk away the majority of the time. Please Girls I'm feeling a little fragile ATM so please don't be too harsh.
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All i got was a watch I brought myself ($10) and lavender scented slippers From my mil. My secret Santa present got forgotten. Join the club. Lol. It stinks but hey. Be creative come next year and buy them delightfully shit presents. :-)
The only presents I get are ones I buy myself and I don't care cause at least I get what I want lol.
Big hug!! That must be aweful !! Any chance you can change the presents at shops they are bought from?! They might not give you a refund because no docket but most shops will either give you an exchange or a credit note!
Perhaps they don't know how to relate? Sometimes it's hard to fit, not sure if this is common with the people you mentioned. Have you got something in common with your in laws?
As for your brother and Dad thy are either being blokes who hate shopping, don't get relationships or don't know you well right now.
Relationships go through seasons and sometimes they are hard and we don't feel we know people as well as we thought. Forgive them but bring it up later when you're not so upset about it, giving less chance of an argument that way.
Hope it gets better soon.
Some people just don't take christmas and gift buying as seriously as others. I'm the same, I go and spend hundreds of dollars and spend hours thinking of what I should buy who. I try and ask months in advance what people would want or need. Then come xmas morning I get a load of crap I would never use and it's obvious I wouldn't like. Don't take it personally. Maybe they were just busy or weren't very organised this year. Maybe they just completely forgot about your intolerances or didn't realise what they gave you wouldn't like. As for your brother and the top...men have no idea haha he might really have thought you would have liked it.
Big hugs for you! Hold your head high that you put in so much time, love and effort and then go buy something nice for yourself :-) Maybe next year, drop some MAJORLY obvious hints and just cross your fingers. I do find the saying 'expectation brings disappointment' helpful sometimes too :-)
Hope your boxing day went better and you got a bargain in the sales!! x
I can see some thought went into my husbands gifts but he still misses the mark... It makes me sad too when it feels like he really doesn't understand me... I get "in trouble" when I make suggestions as he says presents are supposed to be thought of by the giver, but then what happens in your case where you get something useless... Its all well and good that the person giving should choose but if no really thought goes into it then why bother....
Sorry my rant for the day...
I feel for you I really do... At least you can use the cheese board for other stuff not specifically cheese, and the top you could sell online and get something you really like instead. As for the snack foods... Invite some friends round for New Years (no family by the sounds it might be better that way) and serve it up to them.
I'm not going to address the thoughtless gifts you received because I feel Christmas is about giving not receiving. Regift/sell/swap what you can.
Consider next year toning down the thought and effort you put in if you genuinely feel that it is not reciprocated. Although its hard try not to take The gifts you received to heart as you just can never truly know how much thought and effort went into it. Finally if you're sure that your family were all being mean to you try to find out why and address it.
Sorry that you had such a horrid experience please remember that Christmas is really built up so its common to feel disappointed afterwards.