Help dealing with my child's father. Okay then so this maybe long but I'm sorry.
Me and my ex have a fairly good friendship in the last few months but now it's gone down hill.
Abit of back story.
I have recently started working full time( started December 2014 and casual wage full time hours) my ex sometimes picks our daughter up from school when I am working after 5pm which is great I thank him everyday for helping but recently he asked me if I had told child support that I started working I hadn't had a chance yet but the next day I told them. Now a result of this my centrelink payments have gone down and because child support won't acknowledge my income until the new tax year this has brought his payments up. He already pays over a grand a month and most of the time is on time which is great.
Because of this I give in extra time with her which is now a over night visit once a month ( this is due to both of our work hours why it's so little time) he does get every Sunday with her without fail.
Now my problem/question is he is requesting extra time as well as he doesn't want to help with her child care fees and he wants me to pay him money for the hour he looks after on the days I work after 5pm. I am so confused as to what to do because it's not my fault his child support went up I didn't ask for them to change it. I also try keeping him as happy as I can. But nothing is ever enough for him. Please help with some suggestions please I don't know how to deal with this situation as I don't want to ruin the friendship with him because then it would damage my child's relationship with him???? I don't want her to feel left out by him.
Thank you for any helpful suggestions given!!!!
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Im sorry, he doesn't have to help with the child care fees. You have to pay for the child care fees if you have the amount of care you have. He actually doesn't have to pay for anything at all above and beyond the child support payments. If the child was in his care and had to go into child care then he would pay for the child care for his days.
He only gets her overnight once a month? and she is school age? Why are you not classing the times that he has daughter after 5pm as part of his time? That would reduce the care load and be reducing his child support payments etc. I also think he should be getting more time if he can have it, thats great. The amount of time he has with his daughter is a very small amount.
I think you both have things a little confused as to what is what regarding Child Support, Care arrangements etc. Might be time to go to mediation and get this sorted properly so there is no confusion and you both know your entitlements, expectations and have a proper routine in place regarding the care of your daughter.
I'm sorry but a thousand dollars a month? That is ridiculous! As if your child would cost that much! And it's not like he doesn't see his child, he actually WANTS too. You have it very good. Give the guy a break and cut ties with child support and come up with a private agreement with him.