A friend rang me today confused.
Her husband has a very high sex drive and masturbation has become a daily occurrence lately as she is recovering from birth.
Tonight she left baby sleeping on his shoulder and when she returned he was watching porn and self pleasuring with baby still asleep on him.
She has absolutely no concern over peadophile tendancies etc, but feels he crossed a line doing it with baby asleep on him and his sex drive is out of control. He doesn't see anything wrong with what happened.
Thoughts please?
Red flags ?
Red flags ?
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oh thats wrong, he has crossed the line. yeah the baby wont remember it but the fact he couldn't wait until he didn't have the baby is of real concern. I have a very high sex drive and understand the desire to do it multiple times a day but there is a time and a place
As much as it's wrong I think it's nothing to be worried about, maybe she just needs to make it clear straight away that it's not on and the baby needed to be put to bed or he had to just keep his pants on til he wasn't watching the baby.
I don't know. Maybe it was a bit inapropriate but my partner and I have had sex in our bed whilst our young baby was sleeping in it? Is that wrong too?
I would have moved the baby or gone in the other room
Not possible to do, we were living with my in laws so no free rooms and baby slept best while co sleeping.
No bathroom?
Shared bathroom with timed showers. Sucks huh! Honestly I do think masturbating with a child sleeping on you is a little weird. Personally we were ok with the baby asleep at the other end of the bed when she was little. She's 1 and a half now and a light sleeper so no way would we do it now. And we definitely would never have the baby on us.
Yep that would be crossing a HUGE line for me
This makes me physically sick!!
If a man can't keep his hand off himself for his child he never ever will!!
Major trust and self control issues there and my fear is the escalation - when daily or hourly masturbation and porn doesn't satisfy him what next? Who next?
I couldn't be with someone like that and never in hell would I leave my child- his or not with him alone!!!
Major major red flags!!
I think it was crossing the line. But I completely understand when the urge hits the urge hits.
I have "released stress" while my child was asleep next to me, he was SOUND ASLEEP and it was like 3am, we were on holidays and bed sharing (he was 4 years old).
I have also had sex while holding my baby and giving him a bottle. The urge came over my husband and hey, I said hell yeah.
When I met my now husband, we was masturbating several times a days as his ex had withheld for 18 months prior to them splitting, and she frowned upon self pleasure, so he had A LOT of "tension" built up.
Doesn't phase me in the slightest, I would tell him while watching the baby, maybe don't use porn, and to leave the room for his release.
Sorry but you sound sick :-/ really ??! holding & feeding your child while having Sex? Geez it doesn't matter if the Urge hits there's a time & a place
It's called away from children for one .. *shakes head in disgust*
You had sex while holding your baby? Wow, just wow! I have had the urge, hell I have been mid orgasm when my babies have woken up and stopped to feed them after getting dressed as well as my ex, the urge wasnt that important my baby was. Maybe you should look into getting some help.
YOU NEED TO REPORT IT TO THE POLICE!! DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER!! What he has done is child abuse!! Save this baby from him.. and her if she doesn't have the brains to protect her own child!!