Hi ladies :)
This question is regarding my very rocky relationship with my fiancés family....
My fiancé has been married before, and we met when his wife and him just split up.. (In his mind they hadn't been together for a year or so) she still was very attached to his family and took a long time to cut contact with them as my fiancé and her have two kids together.
Anyways, it's been two years now and I still can't seem to fit into his family, I feel like I'll never be as good as his ex wife, we always get given grief for not spending time with them because when he was with his ex wife they were always with his family, so I guess they blame me for not spending so much time with them.. Also his mum seems to dislike me because I speak my mind where as his ex wife just let her walk all over her.
I'm at my witts end I can't seem to be good enough for mainly his sister and mother, any advice for me???
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I guess the more time you spend with them the better they'll get to know you and in time hopefully they'll accept you.
Its really unfortunate that you feel as though you are being compared to his ex in their eyes, perhaps a tactful reminder to them that you are not his ex but the one whom he loves currently is in order? Whether it come from you or hubby a gentle reminder might be all it takes. X
As the 2nd wife of a man whos ex still 20years after splitting with my hubby has alot to do with my in-laws, My advice would be dont try to prove yourself. The fact that your fiancee loves you and wants to be with you should be enough for them to respect you. The fact that not everyone can get along as such and let them deal with their stuff.. dont worry about it.