I can't stop feeling clucky! I was completely turned off having kids after having my husband leave me while I was pregnant with my first child. My second pregnancy I done on my own aswell after having a slip up with a partner I had just started seeing. My eldest is almost 6 (year 1) and my youngest is 4 (kindy). Lately all I have wanted is to have another baby... but I'm not in the situation to have another one financially & physically. Unfortunately I'm in a difficult relationship that can't allow that. I want to experience it with my partner which would be the first time, I even gave birth to both on my own. I was wondering of there is anyone else out there that is the same and if so what do you do to stop feeling like that? All I want is to be pregnant again, hold that new born baby, breastfeed and everything else wonderful that goes with that. But being in the relationship I'm in doesn't allow that. Please help IM's!
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I would have loved to have more. I always imagined 2 or 3 kids. I stopped at one due to my sons severe disabilities and poor genetics. It was tough, I cried, I grieved but I got past it, because there was nothing I could do to change my situation. I also made the decision to get my tubes tied at some point and yeah it want a yay I'm getting my tubes tied. It was man is this what I really want. I went through with it though and once the option of pregnancy was taken away from me I felt so much better.
Now you have two options. I don't know why having another one is not an option (wether your partner doesn't want anymore, or he is abusive or what).
You either make a decision to not daysream about another baby and how lovely it would be. Because basically that's what I did, I made myself think about other things. Made myself keep my mind busy, didn't allow my thoughts to wonder into a territory I couldn't have. I did eventually stop and can't remember the last time I thiught what if.
The second option is to assess your relationship, blow it out of the water and find a relationship that will hopefully lead to a baby as a couple. But that's a lot of what ifs to gamble on if your relationship is otherwise happy and your kids are settled.