One good child, one not so good child and being preg.
DS is amazing. He is kind caring helpful always thankful. He is quite popular at daycare and always has been. I'd have ten kids if they were all like him.
DD is a little so n so. She moans, whinges, hits her brother, takes his toys and the list could go on. She has 1 friend at daycare and that's it. (She has hit or annoyed most of the other kids to the point they don't play/talk to her. I feel sorry for her that at 3 she has no one to play with most days but the teachers)
I try to connect with her by playing, the park, books, nails etc, but it always ends up that DD doesn't like the nail polish, or we didn't stay in the park long enough or didn't go home when she wanted. I love her, but she is so frustrating. My poor DS is then dragged along to comply with DD attitude, or he puts up with her meltdown. (Yes I'm THAT mum with the screaming child in the park)
Today the meltdown was because the cows were no longer outside her window whilst we were driving.
I am finding myself dreading that 1. baby 3 will be a girl
2. That if anything bad happens to my son (illness) I will wish it was her instead
I know these feelings aren't right, and I hate myself for feeling like this.
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Have a good hard think about wether you think her behaviour is normal I'm just a little harder work or is it moving into inflexibility, behaviour issues, anxiety/control issues. Personally because it's isolating her (creating social isolation) I'd take her to see a paediatrician. It maybe nothing but your writing this so your obviously concerned for her so it's worth following up on with a professional.
I agree with above comment, at the very least talk to a doctor it is effecting her life now. I have one difficult child, he is my middle child, my eldest she is quite a pleasure and my youngest well if he wasn't so loud now I would forget him (surprised I didn't when he was a newborn). My son mostly plays up with to much wheat or not enough sleep, those days I hate. It could be as simple as diet with your little one or something else. Don't worry about number 3 either, and as for your other worry of if your other one gets sick trust me you won't wish that at all.
Take her to paediatrician, does she have sensory issues, sensory overload, get her bloods done is she lacking something, does she sleep enough at three she needs a full nights sleep without waking up and a nap during the day, be strickt with the naps and sleep, and tough love, don't let her get away with taking her brothers toys, there has to be a consequence for her not nice behaviour.