Hi all,
wishing to ask anonymously please.
I recently conceived after 1.5 years of ttc, and upon finding out at 4w1d, started getting severe abdominal pain on my left side. I was sent by my dr for scans for kidney stones as have a history of these, and nothing came back. Blood tests were done on a few occasions to check bubbys hcg levels, which werent rising nearly enough (less than half in 48hrs). Long story short, after hospitilisation, being sent home then going back for a scan a week later, 7w4d at this stage, still in agony, a scan showed bubs was in my tube, had already ruptured my tube and caused bleeding into my stomach.
I was put straight in for surgery to remove my baby and my tube.
I am really devastated, as we have been trying for so long, and to lose my baby has really upset me. On top of that, losing my tube also. I guess I am just asking for any information from other ims, as i was given no information on healing time, how long to wait to start trying again, or even if it is possible for us to continue to try now that i have lost my tube. I feel really lost and unsupported medically through this. Thanks in advance.
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I'm not an expert and don't know your full medical history etc. being minus one tube does not rule out TTC. Definitely make another appointment with your doctor and possibly discuss having a regular gyno if you don't have one as it sounds like you have a lot of questions that need answers. I would think you can start trying as soon as you feel well enough to do so. I would probably want to discuss if earlier scans should be done when you get pregnant next time to make sure things are going the right way.
My mum has had 4 pregnancy's Iam the eldest and between myself and my brother she had an ectopic. It was only discovered at 18wks and the baby was removed she lost her Fallopian tube aswell. 6 mths later she fell pregnant with my brother and went on to have another child aswell. Just because you lost one tube doesn't mean you can't have children naturally. All the best for you
My sister-in-law had an ectopic pregnancy & had to have her tube removed. She was told loosing one tube only reduced her fertility by around 10%. Apparently the eggs can find their way to your other tube. She was told to wait for 3 months before trying again and fell pregnant 2 months after trying. Health bub & she now has another on the way with no dramas. Speak with your doctor about your concerns but please be assured it's still possible to fall pregnant again. It's normal you are devastated, you lost your longed for baby. Perhaps you should seek some councelling. Best wishes.
My heart goes out to you xxx I have a friend in a similar situation, and she now has two beautiful girls :) And as a midwife I have met lots of women who have lost a baby and a tube, and conceived again with no further dramas. And I'm appalled that the hospital hasn't given you any support. Where I work we have an Early Pregnancy Service who follow you up after a pregnancy loss - perhaps check whether the hospital has anything similar, as it sounds like you could have been discharged a bit too quickly without the doctors and nurses giving you all the relevant information. Otherwise your GP is the best place to go for further referrals or information. All the best xo
Hi I am sorry for your loss. I also was in this position last year where was rushed in for surgery for a ruptured eptopic pregnancy, we were living in a third world country at the time also so had several complications and also did not have the option of key hole surgery so I had to have a full abdominal surgery to remove the blood from my abdo and my tube. When we headed back to my home country (NZ) I booked in to see a fertility clinic. At the hospital that I had the surgery I was was told lots of horrible things like you can't fall pregnant within 12 months, they forced me to go on contraception and that I had a 50% chance of falling pregnant now and of that a 50% chance of that also been another eptopic. I was devastated and destroyed to say the least. So after seeing the fertility clinic Dr I was set right. The Dr was great and explained to me exactly what had happened, explained that there was no reasons to indicate that I would have any problems falling pregnant again. It was really great to be able to talk to someone that was supportive and able to tell me the correct facts about it all. If you can I would highly recommend booking in to a fertility clinic to see someone if that is an option for you they are great and very supportive. They also discussed options with me for the off chance that I was unable to fall pregnant. It helped me heal a little emotionally also, it's a hard road to be on I know but you will get through it and getting some support around you will also help. Just know that you are not the only mumma out there going through this and that you have a very special heaven baby xoxo