Safety of happiness?

Hi ladies

So basically I'm at stand still In my life - I'm not a mother or a wife but i do need as much advice as possible..

First - I've been with my amazing partner for 5 years we lived together at my family home for 3 years untill I was a victim of a violent home invasion.. This traumatised me causing me to leave my job and quit university.. I'm seeking help for this but it was getting to hard so I moved out into my partners family home

We have been Living here for almost a year now.. A beautiful house in a beautiful safe neighbourhood my partner is in his final year of uni and can walk in as we are minutes away from town..
It couldn't get better right? Wrong..
My anxiety is really bad.. I am just returning to school this month and working a few days here and there and to the parents this isn't good enough (they are very money driven)

His grandparents live here too and it's like living on egg shells - no showers longer than 2 minutes, no going out after 9pm and most definitely no going in the kitchen go get food past 9!
(I got home late today for example and went to make myself some dinner and got told to out it back its too late!)

I get picked on a lot by the family (they think its joking) whilst I take it to heart..
His aunt who also lives here constantly buts in on our relationship acting like a child knocking on our door when she knows we are having alone time.. Making "jokes" that bring me down - using my things and not returning them ect

i love cooking and baking but constantly get looks like "clean up your mess" "don't do that" "

My partner and I wish we could move out on our own but financially we can't untill next year..

My mother has told is we can come home.. Pretty much a whole house to ourselves - it's in a pretty bad area, not close to school or work and it has all my traumatic history in that house..

I'm just so stumped on what to do..
Do I go to a House where I can live and be happy but might feel unsafe?

Or live in a safe house where I'm unhappy?