Advice on step son:
Just advice, not judgment please:
My hubby has a teenage stepson from a precious relationship, we haven't seen a lot of him growing up as he didn't like where we live so he didn't want to ever visit us.
We haven't paid child support for a while as we pay money directly to him every week and he can do what he likes with it and also if he wanted anything he always asked for it and we got it for him.
Anyway the last three years the only time he gets in touch with his father now is when he wants something and the demands have got bigger, as in up to $1000 sometimes. Hubby has started saying no we can't afford it and then he starts putting on a big show saying that we don't love him anymore and saying he is into bad things like stealing and stuff.
He waits a day then tries again, if hubby still says no then he will get in touch with other relatives until someone gets what he wants.
My question is: is my hubby doing the right thing by saying no to the demands or should we still be getting him what he asks for?
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he should absolutely NOT be giving him what he demands and he should stop giving the money directly to the child and start giving it to the mother or child support agency because the money should be going towards his actual needs not just whatever he feels like. I think he has been allowed to get away with what he wants far too long and if my kid decided he didn't want to visit me because he didn't like where I lived he wouldn't have been given a choice in the matter!
Your hubby is doing the right thing! The money shouldn't be going to him either, if mum can't be trusted maybe pay for schooling, some food (as in vouchers or dropping it off), and clothes. Tell him to get a job if he is that desperate for things.