I'm really struggling at the moment I have a very close friend ever since childhood yet she seems to "cut my grass" all the time! She always has to have better than me and will do anything to get it!
I suppose I'm just wondering what to do I don't want to lose such a long standing friendship but am sick of being the whole "don't worry about it it's ok person" when I'm not.
Selfish Friend
Selfish Friend
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If she is a very close friend, you should be able to be honest with her. Friendship is a two way street, like any relationship I reckon. Tell her how you feel and if she can't see your way and respect your opinion then maybe it is time for you to reassess your friendship.
How do you know she's 'cutting your grass'? Maybe she just wants to better herself as a person and works hard to get things she wants!
I hope you can resolve this. Nothing is worth giving up a long time friendship. At best, you should ask her why she feels she needs to one-up you or compete. May be something that you quite possibly feel worse about it than how it's meant to be. Wishing you luck and enjoy your friendships, they are truly a gift.
Why does it even matter. That is her choice to do that and it's your choice to let it annoy you.
I had a toxic friend who I always thought, its just a reflection of how she was feeling and that she didn't have any other friends, so I would put up with it.
Until one day she queried my job choice she wouldn't listen to me getting frustrated so I hung up and wrote her an email on how critical she was. She was upset that I questioned her and severed the friendship. But.....Best thing ever, No one is critical of me and I feel free.