Am I over reacting?
My daughter has just received her class from next year at school and has been placed in a class without any of her friends that she plays with and also without any of the people that were in her class this year. The children are given the opportunity to nominate 5 friends and there is an unofficial policy that they always get at least one friend in their grade.
When I asked the teacher about it she did acknowledge that my daughter was unfortunate in that when the did the classes she wasn't grouped with her friends and that she has specifically been split from her closest friends.
Classes have been finalised and there is nothing I can do ... I know she can still play with them at snack and lunch and have play dates etc but she is so upset.
She is a very confident little girl (and can at times come across as bossy) but I feel like she has been 'shoved' into which ever class had a spare space because they assume she'll be fine, but she cried herself to sleep last night and I'm really upset for her.
Am I right to be upset?
(I know she'll quickly make friends next year and will settle down, but its a long time until next year for her to worry about having no friends).
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Just reassure her that she can keep her friends and that this is a good thing, because it gives her a chance to make more friends! So she'll have even more friends than she had before.
If your really positive about it, she will feel better.
Then see how you go next year. Not much else you can do that I can see?
My daughter was separated from her friends a few years back.
While I was upset for her and with her at the time, it turned out to be a good thing.
She still played with them at lunch though she had a much better report card as a result.
They know all the kids in their grade already so even though they're not with their besties, they're not alone with strangers. :)
Good luck.
As mum I wouldn't be happy but maybe she has been put in with the bright kids or kids of similar ability I would be positive for your girls sake can you organise a play date with a girl in her class over holidays it is hard but kids are very resilient and she will make more friends good luck
If the teacher has said she has been specifically separated from her friends I would suggest it is because they distract each other in class so they are trying to get the best out of them all. Teachers in general don't make decisions like this lightly and shove children in spare spaces. This is probably the school trying to do the best academically for all the children
The teachers know what they are doing. She will make new friends within the first week and she can still keep her old ones