Hi IM's, hope all you lovely ladies are doing well.
I have recently had my Second baby nearly 5 weeks ago and master 2 seems to be struggling with accepting him... is this normal?
He loves to kiss and cuddle him, but also can't be trusted to be in the same room with him if we are not very close by, when I am holding our new born he jumps up and tries to pull his leg down, throws toys at him... pull hie leg through the cot (we have now had to put a gate on babies room to stop him from getting into his room)...
We have tried involving him in everything, time outs etc...
Will this pass or does anyone have any tips?
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Oh very normal! Ive heard so many stories about this ( as i work with children) everything from older child covering babies head with pillows or sitting on them to pinching them and even covering them with pots and pans! The older child doesnt probably even know why they are doing it as they just act on emotion but it basically comes down to them adjusting tp this new little person, as previously all your time was with them and now its not, so its jealousy and feeling left out too. It will take time for the older child to form a bond so just try to help it by letting older one help with the baby so they feel important and also making sure you reassure them you still love them and spend some one on one time with them as well.
sounds very normal, I used to pinch my sister to make her cry :(
At least he shows interest in the baby. That is a good sign. It is a big adjustment for the little man, his life has been turned upside down by this new little person. When my youngest was born, my eldest was not interested in her what so ever. She would have been about 26 months at this stage. It took her a good couple of months to fully show interest in the baby. Give him time, and it is probably wise to supervise any interaction he has with bub. Things will get smoother.