So confused, my husband and I brought a house nearly 4 yrs ago. I love my house and my neighbours. 8 months after we moved in when my little girl was 10 months old I started suffering from major anxiety due to hearing the traffic and hoons as we live on a busy back street. Since then we keep discussing selling but I can't seem to say yes. 3 yrs later my anxiety is getting better but I still don't like the noise of traffic and on a bad day I don't cope that well. I feel that we have to sell to move on, save our relationship and be happy. I suppose my question is how do I take that step and sell the house when I don't think I'll get something as nice and don't know where we will go.
Feeling like I failed:(
How do I move on
How do I move on
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Life Lessons, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression
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Is there a way you can reduce the noise ie; window shutters / double glazed windows, higher fencing, retaining wall at the front of the house?
Or start looking at houses - go to inspections - do some research - who knows, you might have a change of heart?
Remember home is where the heart is! Good luck
Thanks for replying
We've tried sound reducing fencing and double glazing windows. It does help with sight and reduces the noise some but you can still hear them.
I've been looking at houses online and hoping and waiting for that one house that will change things.
It's so hard to take the step without knowing what is next.
I think i might know how you're feeling as i suffer from major anxiety as well. Since my son was born, my anxiety has definitely gotten higher. We live in a very loud street also. There is always construction going on as we live in a new suburb where building companies have a continual building contract. We have lovely neighbours too and everyone gets along like one happy family.
I think in order to save your family and also yourself, you might just have to take the leap and hope for the best. I know everyone has their personal "ideal" house in mind, however, sometimes even though it doesn't tick all the boxes of your ideal house, if you are more emotionally stable and your family is generally a lot happier, a house then starts to change from a building to a home. A home is where great and happy memories are made. Although it will be hard for you to let go of your house now, i think for the greater good, just start looking around and think of the bigger picture.
I should also add in response to the FB comments that I am currently on anti depressants, see a counsellor and now started on a wholistic approach and taking a customise supplement to reduce my copper and increase the zinc as they are imbalanced.
Have you started house hunting yet? Can I suggest walking through some display homes? If you don't feel you can be happy buying a pre-existing house then consider building. You can rebuild your exact house in a different location. Or even just by going through open homes you can get an idea on what's out there.
I have to warn that building can be very stressful too, but the end result is so rewarding