Hi ladies so im guessing I just need a little reassurance....I have a 5yr old child from a previous relationship...my pregnancy in itself was wonderful but then developed preclampsia at 37 weeks and stayed in hospital till 38 weeks when I had her again no real complications (csection)as such both me and baby were fine. Due to me not only being exhausted but wanting to go home I became extremely anxious in hospital which only made my bp rise and everytime id hear the bp machine coming id stress causing higher readings.
Anyhow I ended up being discharged due to the nurses finally understanding id prob be better off home (after 3 days).
Fast forward 5yrs and I am with a new partner of 4yrs and he is wanting a baby.
I want another one also but I keep getting anxious and negative thoughts that im going to die in childbirth or suffer huge complications...anything negative one could think about pregnancy...im thinking it!
Which is weird as after having my child I would of had another right away no probs but now its turning into a fear.
Guess im just asking for some positive thoughts to help me along as I deff want another baby but my thoughts are keeping me at bay!
p.s- my bp has been borderline due to thia new found anxiety which makes me stress even more though my doc deff thinks its due to anxiety and not an actual bp problem. He has sent me to do a bp test to reassure me.
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I think as the anxiety problems are more the issue I'd work in that first as if you weren't worrying about a pregnancy it would just be something else. So get yourself well mentally and then revisit because you want to enjoy any future pregnancies
Hi mummy. I'm so sorry your feeling this way. I think before you consider even trying to get pregnant maybe some counselling would really help you to overcome your fears and anxiety. Visit your GP as you can get 5 free sessions. Please make sure having another baby is what you truly want and don't feel pressured.
I know you can overcome this anxiety if it what you truly want.
Good luck xx
You can suffer post traumatic stress from having births where you fear for your life or your babies life. I also suffer anxiety and I had pe and other complications which resulted in a premature birth and extended hospital stay, very sick babies, surgeries. I was diagnosed 18 months later as I just wasn't coping. I'm terrified to have another child. So I'd suggest speaking to your gp and having some counselling, I haven't seen my counselor in a while but if we decided we were going to try for another baby I'd book myself back in for the support throughout the pregnancy.
Read up about it as you could be suffering post traumatic stress.
Best wishes xxx