how did you know you were done having kids?
i am the proud mum of 3 beauties and after the birth of my DD (19 months) i vowed no more for me
but lately i havent been so sure and hubby has recently made the revelation to me that stopping wasnt his decision it was mine (thought it was both of ours haha), he wants at least 1 more
after my daughter ended up stopping growing in utero (found out through ultrasound that there was reduced blood flow and was induced that night 3 weeks early)
i have been worried that maybe my luck is up, about what would happen if we had another one and it had serious health issues that impacted on the lives of our other children
in other words why when we are already so blessed
but then as mentioned now im not so sure im done
but then i am sure..very confused
so how did you know? did you change your mind and how did it go for you, was it what you expected?
Thankyou
2 Replies
Its a completley personal decision between you and your husband.
I knew i was done after my last because i didnt want to experience pregnancy and the side effects from that, or labour again or even a newborn again. And after each stage ( eg finishing with nappies) i was excited to move on not be sad about 'never having nappies again'. Im guessing you are still young enough to concieve naturally so your body and 'maternal instinct' will probably niggle at you for more children, and i suppose you have to weigh up the pros and cons of another, will you need a bigger house? Car? Can you afford another? But the positive side to it, is of course another beautiful child. It will be you looking about another child, not your hubby so also take that into consideration, goodluck on your future!
We have 3 kids our youngest is 12 mths old. After he was born hubby had a vasectomy to ensure no more babies. I would have happily had more but my body was letting me down and financially it would have been the best. So 3 is our number, I get extremly sad when the youngest reaches milestones but I also know is just another part of life. Sometimes the choice is made for you if your last was risky due you really want to risk your older children not having a mum ??