Hi ladies and gents,
Getting in early and thinking of having Christmas at our house next year. Hubbys parents are separated, have been for about 10 years now. FIL cheated on MIL and is still with that person to this day. MIL also now has a new partner and is happy. Hubby and I get along with all of them very well.
Question is do I invite FIL partner and possibly upset MIL or just have MIL and her partner and FIL.
FIL goes to every family event on his own, partner is never invited and I don't think its fair, she is a lovely person and MIL now has her own partner and is happy... what do I do?
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Is it possible to talk to both of them and see if they are happy to be there together? Maybe now that they are both happy with new partners they may be able to put their differences aside and be in the same "room" so to speak. Way the new partners can also be included. This happened with my parents when they separated and also my scenario where we quite often socialise with my step-childrens' mother and her new partner. You never know if you don't ask the question. Just be upfront and open and see what happens. Good luck it is a very sensitive issue. :)
Invite everyone i would
If it were me, I would invite them all. I would however give mil the heads up that the partner has also been invited. My parents are the same, dad cheated & is still with the same person, about 11 years on now. We invite them all to everything and sometimes dad's partner comes without my dad (if he's working). My mum doesn't like her, but makes an effort for us.
I would ask MIL how she feels, regardless of how happy she is now seeing the person your partner cheated on you with playing happy families may still be painful for her even after all this time
I would invite them all, but let MIL and FIL know they'll be there before hand. I have divorced parents (one re-partnered, one not) and I used to stress so much about them being in the same room. Now I've come to the conclusion if they can't behave like adults, I don't want them at my event anyway.