hi mums
My 10 week old baby is very clingy. Never wants to be put down or sleep alone. This is my second child.
My mother in law and other close relatives keep getting up me for holding him all the time or not putting him down. I only pick him up when he cries and sometimes I leave him cry for a few minutes if I need to do something. He doesn't stop crying though and it gets worse.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why he can't just lay in his pram while I shop.
He's good with his wind and doesn't seem to be in pain
Help
4 Replies
This sounds very normal to me. My bubs loved being held and needed to be rocked, held or fed to sleep. They grow out of their clingy phase.
Also remember that they are going through a wonder week and their fussiness peak at this time. Perhaps get a good sling and baby wear so it won't feel so bad or heavy on your arms. It will get better soon!
You aren't doing anything wrong, this is what babies do. Don't worry about what the older women in your life say they come from a different generation and have forgotten what it's like to be a new mum
You should like Pinky McKays fb page. She is a lactation consultant amongst other things and posts lots of good advice for newborns and attachment parenting. It sounds pretty normal to me and the other women in your life need to back off! You are the mother and your baby needs you around him all the time, newborns are just wired that way..
If you want to hold him, hold him!
If you want to pick him up whenever he cries, do it!
Hes your baby. Not theirs. Everyone is an expert parent on your child (especially in laws lol). Do what you feel is right mumma. Pretty normal for little babies to want to be close to their mumma! Just ignore their comments. Or just laugh and say yeeeah but I want to pick him up so shoosh! Xx